Should I stay or should I go?

[GoodWoman1987]

Seriously need some input. Been dating my boyfriend for coming up on 3 years. We've planned a life together and from the outside I'm sure everything looks "perfect". But inside he's very controlling and, because he brings in the most money by far, he seems to think he has a right to be (like I'm a child who needs to be shown how to handle life). He puts me down in little ways and little comments. No matter how hard I try to go to work, going back to school, keep the house clean, laundry done, cook all the meals, run almost all the errands and keeping myself looking nice, he will always find SOMETHING to bitch about. I feel most days like "you gotta be f$in kidding me? I just did 50 things that were on OUR to do list and you complain bc I didn't get 51 things done." But if I were to tell him something he does wrong OH LORD I'll get my ass handed to me with 1000 reasons why he was right and I'm wrong and why it was ok what he did. Whenever I talk to him about my feelings he just shuts down IMMEDIATELY and I get the "yup" and "sure" answers that every woman loves... *eye roll* Or he acts like I've just asked him a math problem in Korean, like he all of a sudden doesn't understand English and what I'm saying makes no sense (even if I simply ask "why do you seem unhappy?") It really does seem that he is unhappy but if he was wouldn't he just leave? If I'm so disappointing and wrong all the time with everything I do (even the way I sweep the patio..) why would he want to be with me? Do some guys just need stuff to complain about? This is probably one of those "he doesn't like himself so he takes it out on me" things but what am I suppose to do if he won't talk about it? I'm sick of sitting down and trying to discuss things with him and being met with a blank stare EVERY SINGLE TIME. He is such a good provider and does treat me to some nice things. Is that worth staying? Has anyone been in this situation and had it improve? I feel like a trophy wife that needs to just shut up and do what I say and I'll buy you a tennis bracelet and a Mercedes lol but that's not really me. I even bought and read that "5 love languages" book and he doesn't want anything to do with it. Like I'm just a stupid girl with stupid feelings and that's not reality and I need to get back to work. That's how he thinks. I just... does this sound like a promising happy relationship??

[dontaskme]

Why don't you pay for your own stuff so you can tell him to shut the hell up? In essence, you are a trophy wife if you are allowing your bf to pay for things so he can treat you like a lower class citizen.