Hi guys !
I'm a 38 year old father of 2, divorcee of a 10+ years relationship about 1.5 years ago.
I've been dating ever since my ex moved out. Found great new friends, a few short term romances but nothing more.
Now, around x-mas, I was just bout to take a break from dating (online and off) and one girl wrote me, went on a date and it was instantly obvious something was special, we both expressed it.
Saw each other as much as possible for 2-3 weeks, I never felt anything like this, it just clicks on every level, feels like we've known each other our hole life, it's just simple and easy, really amazing stuff ... then she backed off.
She got out of a 10+ year long term relationship with a pessimistic control freak last fall and not ready to have someone in her life. She needs to rebuild, find herself again. She admitted never feeling anything like this either and in the process of falling in love ... but can't cope with that now, with a new house, starting shared custody and with her ex that's giving her a hard time she put the brakes on. She wan't expecting to find "me" or someone like me online, she was there to meet new people yes but only casually.
We've been yoyo-ing for about a month telling each other she needs time, not talking/trexting for a few days, telling me that I shouldn't wait for her, she can't promise anything ... but that it would be great together, we have no doubts about that. She keeps getting back to me, telling me how she misses me, we talk, get together, and she backs off again, too much too soon. We are both torn up.
I really feel like I found my soul mate, first time it happens to me in 38 years (!), we still talk but decided not to see each other for now and she says I'm doing her good, that I'm a positive thing for her right now, with all that's going on ... she's just not ready to be "with me".
Seems like a case of "soul mate with bad timing"
Kinda lost on what should I do, what is best for ME and what's best for HER.
SOS