Playing hard to get

[Jamxoxo]

What is playing hard to get? What does that mean? How do I do that, and in moderation?

[melancholia]

It means being coy when dating someone. Acting reserved and aloof. Why would you want to do that? Wouldn't you rather be more direct about what you want form someone so there's no confusion?

[TornadoJ]

Sorry ladies, first of all, I'm sorry that I as a man reply in this forum, and therefore break the rule of this forum, but I saw this message just below a message of myself.

For me, when I experience hard to get behavior it creates worries, insecurities and it makes me even classify that person as non-adult.
Playing hard to get games is something you should NOT do: man or woman, not matter the age or whatever.

[melancholia]

I agree. Why play games when you can be direct and lay your expectations and needs out on the table upfront? There's a lot less chance of disappointment if you shoot straight and don't play games.

[Jamxoxo]

Being upfront is the way to go. I wanted some clarification. Thank you. Seems that guys in my generation are more "into" the chase and hard to get, but once in a relationship changes.

[melancholia]

Those types of guys are players, who don't want to settle down any time soon. I've dated quite a few of them, and have been one myself. If a man wants to be with you, he will make it clear through his actions and his words.