Originally Posted by
TheEvilJester
Okay, so hearing a little more of your story, I have a few follow up questions. And, again, you don't have to answer them if you don't want, but they may help me have a better understanding and thereby give a more well informed opinion.
So, you say she kind of started to seem a little cold in her responses at one point. Now, I know this is kind of asking you to guess what she was thinking.... but do you think there may have been any particular reason WHY she suddenly started to become cold on you? Did something happen, or did you two have some kind of argument or disagreement or anything like that? Is it at all possible you may have said or done something that upset her (even though, IF you did, I'm sure it was intentional on your part)? Or, as far as you can tell, were things great one day and suddenly the next day she's Mrs. Freeze?
Now, after she started being a little cold, did you ever ask her what was wrong? You did say you asked her if you did anything wrong, but did you also ask her whether there was just something going on with her? Maybe she was upset at the time, but it wasn't at you or because of you in any way, it was just completely some other unrelated thing.
Also, when you did decide just to stop contacting her to, as you put it, give her her "time/space," had you two discussed that at all? Or did you just stop contacting her completely? Final question, regarding her Facebook status of "You will never understand the extent of hurt this has caused." Was that a private message on Facebook directly to you? Or a comment on one of your posts? Or a comment in response to one of your comments on a previous post of hers?
Or was it just a brand new Facebook update of its own just on her Facebook timeline? I ask because I am wondering if it is at all possible that she wasn't talking about you. You jumped to the conclusion that this Facebook status of hers was directed at you.... and maybe it was, but it is also just as possible it was completely unrelated to you.
Anyway, the only reason I ask all those questions is to get a better idea. I mean, just as one possibility off the top of my head.... It's possible she was beginning to get cold with you because she was going through some drama in her life. It could have been completely unrelated to you, but she could have been going through some crap and maybe didn't MEAN to be so cold to you, but she was just too down to be her normal cheery self.
Anyway, to be 100% honest with you, even if that WAS the case, I still feel like my personal conclusion is the same. She let weeks go by and didn't even bother to reach out to you. I understand you did the same thing, but A) you were the last to reach out to her before you just gave up and B) you did so because she started to make you feel like she wanted nothing to do with you. So, if she still cared, she could have reached out to you within those two weeks.
Not only that, but any time you finally did reach out to her again, you still continued to either get completely ignored or to get cold, short, heartless responses. So, as far as I am concerned, it really doesn't matter much at all WHY she chose to check out of your relationship.... the fact that she did at all tells me you deserve better. Look, I can understand if she was going through a lot of crap in her life. Who among us hasn't? But, that is all the more reason to lean on your loved ones, not pull away from them.
And, Hell, maybe it is as simple as she no longer felt she could do the long distance thing, or she just wasn't that into the relationship, or any number of things like that...... BUT that doesn't change the fact that a mature, responsible adult who actually cares whether or not they hurt other people would handle that by TELLING you that.... not by just basically checking out and ignoring you. So, frankly, there is almost no excuse in the world that would tell me she deserves another chance with you. I think you should just move on and find somebody who will appreciate you the way you deserve. Good luck.