Is it over after drunken texts

[Vamp101]

I have been seeing this guy for over two months now and things have been okay up until a few days ago. Last Saturday we made plans to meet up and go out for drinks. The day arrives and I haven't heard from him, I didn't hear from him the day before either. I text him around half 6 asking if we were still on for tonight. He doesn't reply until half 9 and says he and his friends won't be out until 11 and during that time I assumed we weren't meeting and I didn't feel great either, plus I had to be up the next day now at 7 for work. I texted him back at 10 saying that I couldn't make it and that I was sorry. I don't know if he recieved the message or not,I don't think he did. Anyway it comes till about 3 am in the morning and he starts drunk texting me saying "I needed you" "where are you?" Etc. I coud tell he was really drunken because the spelling was dreadful. He also rings me about half 3 but I didn't answer because I was asleep at the time. Early the next morning I texted him saying why I couldn't make it again again, asking if he got my message and that I was sorry and that I would make it up to him. This was now two days ago and I haven't heard from him. Although he has viewed all my snapchats and been on facebook and other social media sites. Granted some days he does take a couples of days to reply but this time it feels different. He is also very insecure in himself. For example, when we would go out together he would ask if I had been seeing other guys as well, he would ask this a few times. Also when times I hadn't texted him back for awhile but had viewed the message he would Think I was ignoring him or ask me if everything was okay.
Anyway I just don't understand what his problem could be. I think it's a bit of a silly reason to end things over the fact I didn't meet up with him or because of his texts that night. I have been thinking of messaging him again and asking what's wrong but I don't want to come across needy or desperate. Should I message him again? I would really appreciate some advice on what to do. Do you think it's over? Or maybe he's just really embarrassed?

[TheEvilJester]

To be honest with you.... and maybe this is just me, I don't know.... but I would not reach out to him again if I were you. One quick question for clarification, though. When you agreed to meetup that day for drinks, did you agree to a specific time? If so, what time? Or, did you just agree to meet that day and figured you'd just talk day of and figure it out?

I ask because, just on gut instinct from what you shared.... my gut reaction is why in the blue Hell did you apologize so much? To me, it sounds like he was super flaky and unavailable. So, you don't hear from him all day the day before, or day of..... then you try to ask him what's up with your plans.... and he gets back to you THREE HOURS LATER.... and even then isn't really super clear on whether he was still intending to keep his plans with you.

If anybody should have been apologizing, it was him, NOT you. And as if all of that weren't ridiculous enough.... after you tell him you won't be able to make it, he's texting and calling you at 3:00 AM?! And now two days later he still hasn't had the decency to reach out.

Honestly, my personal advice would be to leave this guy in your dust and don't look back. He comes across to me as being a gigantic overgrown child when you should be looking for a man. But, Hell, let's play Devil's advocate here....

I'll pretend best case scenario here, that he's super insecure/shy and is embarrassed by how he acted....

You still reached out to him the next morning and were even apologetic (needlessly, if you ask me) that you couldn't make it..... and yet he still can't man up and reach out? So, even if it is best case scenario here.... I'd still personally leave him in my dust if I were you. Believe me, I get being shy. I am RIDICULOUSLY shy. But, at some point you have to start trying to get over that, at least with the person you are dating, or how is anybody ever going to be able to have a relationship with you? ....But to be honest, I don't necessarily think it is a matter of him just being "shy."

To me, it sounds more just like he's a flaky person and you should honestly consider yourself lucky you learned this about him now rather than after you'd become more attached. Now, I readily admit that MAYBE I'm being overly cynical, I don't know. So hopefully others can share their thoughts.... But, I can just tell you that to me personally, it doesn't sound like this guy is worth your time. You tried, but all he could do in return is be flaky and immature.

Good luck to you either way.