Dont look at your past experiences man. This time you might just get lucky. You see if she messaged you first theres a big chance she will continue to lead and make important steps forward.
She will take over especially when she will sense that you are not experienced. I mean if you never kissed a girl then you shouldnt say that. But if you are a virgin then you shouldnt lie and tell her that you have experience in bed. I remember one of guy of guys I knew once was about to have sex with a girl and then told her hes a virgin - she smiled and did everything for him.
Still theres a lot you can learn before having your own experience. In terms of chatting and interacting with new girls. You basically just have to be confident(easy to say I know) and dont let negativity get to you. Forget all the reasons why it wont work and believe one reason why it would. Girls likes when you appreciate them. When you meet try to compliment her and it will be more effective than if you would message compliments to her.
You will be better with her if you get good with girls in general. So talk with other girls aswell build up that social skills and confidence will come from experience and momentum. Warming up helps to get in mood for conversation.
I will give you some links that I find helpful about interacting with girls.
Texting guide.
https://youtu.be/MCavH8JDIsk?list=LLsx6isKCu4vxjq1nsEMHFlA
My guide on interacting with girls
http://www.loveforum.net/the-relationship-news-and-articles/85674-guide-interacting-girls.html
Some good questions to ask a girl you like - you choose them carefully.
http://thestallionstyle.com/20-really-interesting-questions-to-ask-a-girl-you-like/
More serious questions more for GF but some are good to ask even when if she not your GF. Will save you time to get to know her better.
http://thestallionstyle.com/90-really-good-questions-to-ask-your-girlfriend/
Theres so much more info man. But I can suggest google simplepickup. Also you can private message me if you want more of what I know.
A nice touch on a first date would be a red rose. Just a single rose. Its a lot but not too much. Then of course its important to pay for both on first date, especially if you are inviding. These little things helps a lot. Also forget about the looks. Guy have to be smart not beautiful. Girls get carried away when guy talks beautifully. When two people feel good with each other and have something to talk about then weight and looks are not important.
First relationships ussualy fail. But you dont have to try make everything perfect. It will be much easier for you if you dont look at this girl like of she can change your life but more like look at her like shes not the happiness but a step towards happiness. Each girl will give you more experience and bring you closer to the right girl at the stairway to heaven.
Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will