Originally Posted by
Manju IT
actually I feel like my life and thoughts are out of my control.. what should I do????
find out what you want (see here on how: http://www.loveforum.net/love-advice-forum/99726-what-do-you-want.html )
If you are not getting it CHANGE what you are doing.
If there is something that repeatedly "happens" to yourself then find out what you did to make this happen to you.
Find out how to avoid that and what to do best instead.
Stop reacting to the world and start acting out of your own intentions to the world.
That means knowing what you want and what your intentions are. It also means (carefully) communicating them to the world.
Stop being a victim of fate, karma, circumstances, society, people or other outside things.
YOU have the power to change your circumstances. If you know what you want - go find out how to get there.
That doesnt mean being egoistical. It means being honest.
It doesnt mean you should not give anything to the world - you should. You should make the world a better place. But if you decide to do it, then do it because you WANT to.
And not because anyone (be it me, friends or the newspaper) tell you to.
You are afraid of what other people think of you? Thats bullshit. If you just react to the world people will think that you are everything you fear them about.
Every great personality has enemies and people who dont like them. Thats life. "If you are holding out for universal popularity you are going to be in this hut for a very long time"
If you think I am insulting you with my post or bashing you: You do not get the point.
I am not here to insult or bash anyone. I offer up my free time to help. Take from my post what is useful to you.
If you are angry about my post or myself, then please stop and think how that happened. Usually that is the way the brain responds if a critical belief system is challenged (its called cognitive dissonance). If you have trouble with it please answer in the thread. I will come back to you.