Having a poly relationship complicates things quite a lot, as all people involved must be SUPER confident, and have SUPER good communication and relationship skills. Most young people just don't have that, so it's doomed to fail. But you'll never know how good you are at communication until you try poly.
If you want to try poly, do that. If not, I recommend you pick the best person for you and date them.
I have to give kudos to the ex who came back to say she loves you, that takes a lot of guts. But she may not love you at all, she might just need you. Those are 2 different things. Why do you think she overcame her fears to tell you that?
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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