Almost a year after she rejected me, she kissed me, but what now?

[Stolnyigrad]

I have some history with this girl, we were really close for almost half a year, but then she said she sees me just as a friend, even tho we were cuddling, holding hands and so on a lot. Then I stopped talking with her for like month, but started again, because I just care a lot about her. Now it's almost a year since she told me that and we were on party, she got drunk and told me that she's really sorry for what she said, because she wasn't sure about it since I would be her first guy, asked me if I still like her and then we kissed. After the party I texted her that it's all up to her if she wants to be with me or not and she answered that she's not ignoring me, but she just has to think about it. It's been almost two days since she wrote that and I still have no response, should I wait or text her? Do you have any similiar experience?

[GLYC]

The balls in her court. Just wait.

I wouldn't have said this, "texted her that it's all up to her if she wants to be with me or not "

I would have just assumed she did.
Should have just asked her out on a date. Would be more confident.

[Hooo!]

No I disagree
Women and especially girls like to be swept from their feet
They (usually) like sincere non pushy interest
And they are usually bad at making the first step and it is up to the man to erm „give them the opportunity“

What do you want with this woman? A relationship? Sex? Both?

[pcmaster]

You played it kinda passive. You let her think, but instead you should have made her feel and when you change the way girl feel you change the way she thinks.

Now she dont feel anything because you let it up to her. Instead better would be say like - I want you to be my GF or I dont want to be just your friend, I want more or we cant be just freinds and then kiss her, something like that.

I like how this girl said - we cant be brother and sister -
https://youtu.be/8qZHw60dDqQ?t=3m55s

https://youtu.be/8qZHw60dDqQ?t=3m55s

[GLYC]

No I disagree
Women and especially girls like to be swept from their feet
They (usually) like sincere non pushy interest
And they are usually bad at making the first step and it is up to the man to erm „give them the opportunity“

What do you want with this woman? A relationship? Sex? Both?

Unfortunately it will come back as being pushy though if she says she has to think about things,

Women typically only say things like that when they are being pushed into doing things, which is a mistake with the Op possibly.

I would say, "Yeah no problem, just get back to me When you figure things out, id love to see ya again!"

Versus, if she tells you she has to think about things and you coming out with "what did you decide??"


In reality. If you never heard back from her, in that moment, it's a no-go.

[Hooo!]

Yes but I thought he already froze her and THEN she already did come to him and they kissed
To me this is a sure ioi and I would take matters into my hands
I wouldn’t be like „sowhat did u decide?“
I’d be more like
Im cooking dinner on Saturday noodles
You wanna come?

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