Feeling a little down!

[shh!]

Do you get a local, community newspaper? They usually have listings for upcoming events around town. Try checking that. Also check out activities through the department of parks and recreation, Gymboree classes, etc. You might even see groups of women hanging around together in a park with babies. They are probably part of some sort of playgroup.

[artyemi]

right, I agree with you. I call those friends all the time but I think it's they view me as having a kid so I don't fit in with them anymore. I'm not invited to a lot of things becasue they assume I can't make it. I do make a very good effort, by calling and making plans but other friends get put in front of me and they hang out with them instead. And that hurts a little ya know?

Hey Rosebud. Wow, quite a bit in common here. I started feeling the same way in my relationship, when all of a sudden, I found myself hanging out with only his friends and then, I found myself having no friends of my own.

I think partially, it's inside of us, our mentality that causes this separation from our friends. We feel the difference from our friends, and we view things a little differently.

What I did was I started going out dancing, and I constantly called out my friends to hang out with me, to let them know that I'm still available for hanging out. And now, I have my own friends again. And you just keep doing it till they know that you are available to hang out.

[Rosebud]

yeah i think I'm going try everything you guys said. I mean, I know it is hard for me to sometimes get out of the house but if I dont make the effort to do so I won't get out of this at all. I agree with you arty! And not to say I'm glad, but in a way I am glad that soemone else knows where I'm coming from. I even had one of my friends' new girlfriends tell me she wanted to start a bowling league with me which I thought was cool but all the leagues have already started so that kinda went out the window.

I think I'm a little scared as well because I haven't gone out in so long by myself and friends that it's almost like I'm comfortable not doing it and I so so so don't want to be like that. I guess I just have to figure a way to do something on a regular basis and then go from there like what you said arty. The hard part will be finding someone to do that with initially.

It stinks though because I still love having people around, I mean I invite people over all the time but my bf will be tired from working and all he'll want to do is sit at home so i'll make some calls and either everyone is working or they are out of town just like how I used to be about 3 years ago. grrrrrrrrrr!! Oh well something good has to happen soon right?

[Rosebud]

Do you get a local, community newspaper? They usually have listings for upcoming events around town. Try checking that. Also check out activities through the department of parks and recreation, Gymboree classes, etc.

Yeah that figures, I checked those things out around here and nodda, zip, zilch!!!! Grrrr, that's what I get for living in michigan!!!!! Oh well back to square one again.