Would you download porn at the office?

[misombra]

it doesn't sound like has a problem then. sounds like he was being an idiot at work thinking nobody would find out.

[jendenovum]

i hope so.... it kills me that he would take a chance like that.

thanks for your help.

[misombra]

yeah, some people are... well, clueless. i hope he learned his lesson.

[Junsui]

Well, unless he isn't DLing it anymore he hasn't learned any lesson. That is a little weird and I don't see this having anything to do with "being a guy".

[Debunkt]

My gf didn't like that I looked at porn. She didn't tell me not to do it, just that she didn't like that I did it, that it made her feel devalued, less necesary, etc... So I stopped. Cold turkey. I haven't looked at porn in 2 months. Its honestly not that hard, and I don't even get sex when I want it. Its honestly not a hard habit to break, especially if it means that much to someone you care about. But thats just my opinion.

[Junsui]

You're unlike most that I know, Debunkt.

[jendenovum]

You're unlike most that I know, Debunkt.

You're not like my man, either. I wish that he were more like you. It wouldnt matter how much it bothered me, he would never be able to stop. there were times a few years back where he tried to no avail. i wont put taht kind of pressure on him now, but i WILL b!tch about him doing it at wrok

[shh!]

Rather than b*tch about your b/f's behavior, why don't you just go out and get yourself a man who already exhibits the characteristics you want?

Bitching and nagging is what women resort to when they have no power. Why don't you just empower yourself?

[Junsui]

Nice shh!, I definitely agree with what she says there.

[ecm]

Porn at work. Ugh. Over the last six or seven years, I've had to fire 3 people for repeatedly looking at porn on the company computers. Each got a warning the first time, but that didn't stop 'em. What are they thinking?

[Junsui]

Usually they aren't thinking and that's the problem.

[Rosebud]

yeah.. that's true Junsui!!!

[Rosebud]

I wouldn't come off as b*tching at him becasue he probably won't respond to that. I would just tell him how your concerned that this will affect more than just him, and tell him there's nothing wrong with him doing it at home instead of work.

[jendenovum]

I already did tell him that its fine at home, not at work though.

to shh - if i found a man that was as great as he is in every other way AND did not obsess with porn enough to look at it at work, i probably would leave him.

unfortunately it is not just about me and my son loves him unconditionally.

[carpflounder]

Rather than b*tch about your b/f's behavior, why don't you just go out and get yourself a man who already exhibits the characteristics you want?

You sound just like my gf's mom..and she has been with over 30 guys.

She said earlier that this is the only thing that really bugs her about him. From what I've read..he sounds like an excellent father who is making some poor choices.

That some lovely logic ya got there shh! If one thing bothers you.. just find someone else..cuz that other guy couldn't be any good,,right?

This is why I'll only date virgins....