calls are late, should I forget him

[choke choke]

I met a very sweet guy at my summer job and we flirted like crazy until one day he pulled away (I didn't know at the time, but he had a new girlfriend).I continued to pine for him in silence. About two weeks before the summer season was over, I really turned up the flirting, hoping he might notice me again and it seemed to work. He loved the attention.

I decided that I would let him know my true feelings and I gave him a note that said I liked him with my number on it. It was an exhillerating feeling until I saw his stunned reaction. He had absolutely no idea. He tried to be really nice after I told him and made small talk with me until I left for home (he didn't acknowlege the note, just put it in his pocket).

I felt really bad, but knew I wouldn't see him again until next year. I kept hoping he would call that week, but nothing happened. I cried a little but got over it after another week had passed, university is so much work, there is no time for this type of wallowing.

Three and a half weeks after I confessed, I get a phone call. It's my boss asking if I could come to work the very next day because someone couldn't make it. I said yes but felt nervous because I was sure that my guy would be there, but I planned to play it cool and not talk to him. Coincidentally, a few hours later, he calls me...The first thing out of his mouth was that he was sorry he didnt call earlier and that he was "just so busy". I was caught offguard and blurted out that I was very busy and had to go out (which I did), but that I'd see him at work the next day. I felt really rude.

At work, I was so awkward I barely said hi and avoided his gaze. The whole night I kept blushing and feeling awkward but he kept pursuing me to talk and get my attention. Halfway through the night I overheard someone ask how his girlfriend was and he said he'd dumped her. (I asked his friend why and he said she slept with anyone and was on drugs too much) At the end of the evening, I was feeling more comfy and before he left, we hugged eachother and he said he would call me.

It's been 5 days and no call. If he does call, should I bother with him? I've heard that when a guy really likes you, he'll wait 3 days tops, but if he's playing hard to get, it's seven days. I understand my shyness makes people very uncomfortable, but do guys get shy about calling a shy girl? I'm worried that he'll keep calling every two weeks to keep me hooked but never anything more. People keep saying what a great guy he is, now I'm unsure.

[misombra]

It's been 5 days and no call. If he does call, should I bother with him?

no.

move on.

[mini696]

I agree with misombra. You shouldn't even be waiting.

[Lloyd95]

Agreed; and why would you want to be with a guy who plays these juvenile games?

[Richter]

If you have already made your feelings clear and he is not responding I think he is not thinking about you.

Im confused about the avoiding of gaze stuff. Us guys love a bit of a look and a smile. Also let him know how much you want him to call you.

[Tone]

I agree with Lloyd, Mick, and 'sombra.

You're right - if someone is interested in you they will make the effort, they will make time to call you. Him taking so long to call you means he has everything on his mind but you... then one day when he has nothing else to do and is lookin for somethin to do, he'll stumble across your number in his phone and say "Oh yeah..."

I'd say move on, don't invest so much into this guy. If he does call, maybe chat a bit, and see what happens. See if he starts to call more and start actin more like he wants to get serious with you.

[independent]

Have you heard the phrase "he's just not that into you?" - This would fall into that category. Dont give him the time of day. Dont wait for the call that is. If you happen to be in, fine. But dont wait around for it. Let the voice mail get it or whatever.

I'm reading a book right now I think you'd enjoy (its funny & hip & REALLY insightful about things like this). See if your local library has it: "Why Men Love Bitches" (you can look it up on Amazon too or go to [url]www.whymenlovebitches.com[/url] )