New to dating

[sfalexi]

personally want to be loved and accepted for what I am. Otherwise there will be resentment. I don't want resentment in my relationships, you?

I wonder if we're thinking of the same thing. By "tweaking" I mean the small meaningless stuff. For instance, my girlfriend kindly goes clothes shopping with me in order that I pick out clothes that she likes the way I look in. And vice-versa. I don't see this has something I 'resent' her for. It's a simple change that I don't mind doing. However I don't every intend to make huge changes such as changing her favorite hobbies or anything. Cause in that case, you're right. I shouldn't be in the relationship if there's something MAJOR about her that I can't stand.

Is this sorta what you THOUGHT I meant?

Alexi

[IceQueen]

Yeah, I don't think we were talking about the same thing. We seem to be on the same side of the barricades now that we realize what we're talking about.

[mostly blushing]

Well, I never said I was going to try to change him. My point was merely in regards to either accepting it, or moving away because I couldn't stand it. I'm sorry but I really dislike smoking, so I don't know that I would be able to accept it.

I saw this guy last night, (not planned) and he wasn't smoking. He told me that he'd had 10 cigarettes that week and kinda wanted one, but now that I was there, he wouldn't have one.
I thought that was a good sign. Plus IMO, if he quits, he's only going to be better off.

[mostly blushing]

Oh yeah and by the way, seeing him was great. I was a bit tipsy (girls night out) so I think I would have been quite funny to him.

He looked hot too!

[Mr.]

oh that is so me lol

[mostly blushing]

Well, I saw him last night, he had to work but we hung out for a bit when he finished. We talked and everything was great. We were both pretty drunk, but I thought things were going well. Anyway his friends (whom I'd never met) picked us up and we went out for a while with them. Then it was time to go home so they dropped me off and he kissed me good bye (long kiss) infront of his friends.

Then about an hour later, I messaged him saying have a good night and it was good to see you and maybe we can do something next week. He didn't respond, and as I was a bit drunk, I wrote again saying something about not responding, which was a bit silly but anyway. Then he wrote back:
'I'm sorry, i've misled you, i don't think i'm what your looking for'

WTF??? I'm so confused, i don't know why he wrote that. he hasn't msged me or anything since either

[sfalexi]

Who knows. He's probably either playing a game or just wanted to see if he could "hook you".

Either that or he's playing some retarded game to get you to miss him and get interested in him so that later on when he returns you'll give it up for him or some shit.

Or maybe he just thought you were pretty, so he flirted with you, but realized that you're not what he wants so he's stopping it now.

Don't sweat it. Plenty of fish in the sea. Hey, if you want, I'll take you out next week. I mean, my girlfriend said she wants us to see other people so I'll be your quick rebound guy. Sound good?

[mostly blushing]

LOL thanks Alexi

I'm not sweating over it, it was just a bit disappointing. I mean I'm new to the whole dating game!

[sfalexi]

I'm new to the whole dating game!

yeah. Sucks that sometimes it's just too much like a game. And not enough seriousness. GL in future.

Alexi

PS - To anyone reading out there looks like MVP has left us for an indefinite period of time.

[Innova]

I noticed that lol...

[mostly blushing]

what's MVP???

Oh well, on to the next man now!

Uni semester starts next week so there are plenty of cuties there! ha ha