Did I smother her or was too easy?

[blackiesharley]

i suppose that is better than being awake because your dog snores too loud.

Laughing out loud. That's what woke me up. Seriously.

[misombra]

lol, what kind of dog do you have?

[blackiesharley]

lol, what kind of dog do you have?

Female Dobie-Weiller. A real sweetheart.

[misombra]

you should post a pic in the "my pets" thread.

[blackiesharley]

you should post a pic in the "my pets" thread.

OK, but where is it?

[misombra]

[url]http://loveforum.net/showthread.php?t=11308[/url]

[clynn]

Sounds like things are trucking along very well for you now then.

Can't wait to hear how things develop. Sounds like they will very well.

[blackiesharley]

Sounds like things are trucking along very well for you now then.

Can't wait to hear how things develop. Sounds like they will very well.

Thanks Clynn, I hope you're right. I'm feeling a little discouraged at this moment.

Yesterday was a total game of phone tag. We called back and forth about four times each. She would give me her schedule, I would give her mine. Both of us were having very busy days. it was very friendly but each call was brief. At least we were trying.

I called at 8:30 pm and she didn't return the call. I've smothered her and been too easy, let's face it.

I'll never learn. Must give her space, make her miss the attention a bit. Games? Yeah but that seems to be the way it goes...

[clynn]

I'm sure all is not lost.

But for me? I'm a gal that likes my space. Or at least I like a guy who can give me my space. In the early stages, I'm not interested in talking to someone even once every day nevermind more than that. Of course I might think I want him to call me more often....... but if he does........then I guess, yah, I feel like there are expectations I can't live up to. I think giving time and space allows the system to catch up to the emotional influx. Or somethign like that.

It isn't about playing games, it is just the way I seem to respond.

But that is just me. And I know I'm a little unusual.

[blackiesharley]

I think giving time and space allows the system to catch up to the emotional influx. Or somethign like that.

I like the way you put that, or in other words 'digest' the emotions and excitment.

There's another factor in play here (not totally unlike Xmas Girl) She's a single Mom of two daughters. She handles it well with a great attitude but I'm inexperienced at dating women with kids and I'm trying hard to learn the dynamics. I'll do it though.

A big part of me feels that I can make really this work, IF I can not smother her and scare her off.

She called me Sunday night and left a message. I was out and got back too late to return the call. Obviously a good sign and she's still interested.

[Sugarbabe72]

Im sorry blackiesharley, but the more i read your posts, the more i feel like youre playing games. I dunno if it is my old age speaking, but why do people need to play games ?

If you like her, let her know, dont worry if you have called too much. The right girl will embrace this. Playing games will only cause unnecesary emotional turmoil.

If what you feel is true, express it. And if it is rejected, then she is not the one.

[blackiesharley]

If you like her, let her know, dont worry if you have called too much. The right girl will embrace this. Playing games will only cause unnecesary emotional turmoil.

If what you feel is true, express it. And if it is rejected, then she is not the one.

While what you say is true, I know myself well enough to be aware that I have a tendency to smother. I have to hold back at least a bit for fear of scaring her off.

[Converse]

Why can't you just enjoy this without getting stressed? She called you, well that's cool, enjoy it and go out it doesn't have to turn into a big thing. You're stressing out over nothing. If it's to do with bad relasionships in the past that doesn't mean this one is going to be bad aswell. CHILL OUT and go with the flow, if you keep stressing then you may aswell end this now.

You're not smothering her you're just replying to her calls, if you do have a tendancy to smother tell your self not to do it! Just try to have have fun.