Did I smother her or was too easy?

[blackiesharley]

Posted a profile on a free dating site as a goof. Lot's of responses, mostly from 'less than desireable' (to be kind) women and a few gay men. (At least someone wants me. LOL)

One however was from a really cute lady that lived somewhat close. (By online stardards) We exchanged emails for a couple of days then exchanged phone numbers. We spoke for a few hours (it was great!) and decided to meet last night for sushi.

When she walked into the resturant it was like a scene out of a movie. We looked at each other for a minute or two before even saying hello. It was wonderful. We ended up kissing, carressing, stroking each others hair and talking about very deep things. It wasn't instant chemstriy (spl?) it was the entire labratory (spl?). Even some of the other diners asked 'are you guys celebrating your anniversy?' 'No, our first date.'

We agreed to work out plans for next weekend. Hours later after a beautiful evening, (We 'closed' the resturant) I walked her to her car a few blocks away. Kissed again, said goodnight and she pulled out, I walked up the sidewalk. She stopped her car. Said 'I'm not ready to say goodnight yet, wanna lift to your car?' with a smile. Sure. I hopped in, and once again kissed, hugged and said goodnight, 'we'll talk tommorrow.'

I called her when I got home and left a message to the effect that 'I had a great evening, I wanted to make sure you made it home OK.' (We met about half-way between us, about an hours drive each)

My buddy says I shouldn't done that, it was smothering.

Radio silence. She hasn't called me back.

Being me, I just left another message ' Just calling as promised to say hello, hpe you're having a great day.'

Did I smother her? Was I too easy? Remember the context of the evening as described above. Damn, I hate playing these games....

[Kiechi]

I personally think that you are. From my knowledge of the female sex, I don't think they like to smothered much especially when you only met the woman the night before. But take what I think with a pinch of salt and see what the more experienced members think. Whatever happens, good luck with the situation Blacksharley. Hope it all works out bud'.

[arioch]

Wow - sounds like a pretty good story. Up until the no reply part!

I had a similar experience when a first date went really well and got told to get lost next day. It happens, unfortunately.

Will be interesting to hear any updates on this.

[Lynx3]

Yeah, I was reading it, and thinking, everything is going perfect, what could go wrong with this one? She might not have had the time to answer you? or has not checked her messages? dont assume the worst all the time...i always assume the worst with my girlfriend(now ex) and then it ends up that always has a very true and valid excuse for it..i end up feeling really bad

[blackiesharley]

Wow - sounds like a pretty good story. Up until the no reply part!

I had a similar experience when a first date went really well and got told to get lost next day. It happens, unfortunately.

Will be interesting to hear any updates on this.

Combat report... She just left a voice mail as I had stepped out. Radio silence broken. I'll listen to it later...





Ohhhhh!!!! She just called from Walmart where she was buying stuff to bake her Mother a B-Day cake tonight and said she wanted to call me during the baking. Ahhhh... She's soooo sweet.

[shh!]

If I had that kind of chemistry with someone, I would be thrilled that he called me, but do try to curb your enthusiasm a little bit. One call in 24 hours would have been sufficient.

I don't think you blew it though. She probably just hasn't been around.

Hey, blackie - post your picture in the forum, would you? Or send it to me via PM? I am dying to put a face to the name...

[xwfuro]

maybe she is nervous or scared of the feelings she has toward you, or simply hasnt had enough ime to get back to you. i would recommend not dwelling on it but at the same time dont give up.

[King Zarathu]

omg i can't believe this.. you have me captivated with suspense, i'm dying to know what's going to happen

just like a movie..

but yeah dude, i think you have it goin on, but as said before, 1 call in a 24 hour period is more than enough. <3

[blackiesharley]

maybe she is nervous or scared of the feelings she has toward you, .

How often does that happen? She called me back again last night and I didn't pick up.

For you regulars that have been following my drama, 'Xmas Girl' and 'Sharon Tate' were wonderful but this one's like magic. I'm terrified. I'm wondering if I even want to call her back. I'm scared of this one, it seems too good to be true, I'm opening myself up for a LOT of hurt here.

Is that why people often just 'go poof' and disappear? It's not that they don't like you, but perhaps they like you TOO much and run away? That's almost how I'm feeling inside myself.

I won't be an a++hole and not return her call, I will tonight, but I'm feeling that it's safer to just back off. Sad huh?

I think I need professional help....

[justin86]

great story man...all the best!

[shh!]

I think I need professional help....

No, you just need a smack on the head. What were you thinking? Don't avoid the phone when she calls you!! Do you want her to think you don't like her?

[misombra]

oh man you do need professional help. i say get a dating coach or something, you have it way backwards.

call this woman!!! loosen up and let go. don't worry so much about what will come of it just do what you feel!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Tone]

Listen to the two very lovely ladies above me, blackie!

You don't have to play any games... NONE at all! Answer when she calls, call her when you say you will... just don't go overboard... I don't think anything was too wrong with the first message.. "checkin if you got home safe"..although it might have been a lil too much, but hey - you're excited so why not!

But the second one.. "Hey hope you have a great day" -now after I read that, I thought "Oh no she's gonna get the wrong impression and think he's some crazy, clingy, attached guy" so just SLOW DOWN, guy.

And do everything shh! and sombra tell you

[clynn]

have fun.

You definitely are a "Feet First" kind of guy, aren't you?

[King Zarathu]

well, it has always been said that if a couple NEVER argues, there is a serious problem. but then again, you do have a lot of time to wait