can a mother kill a relationship?

[carpflounder]

I would just tell her Mom what I thought of her.

"Look I know you come from a filthy third world country and I am sure you want your daughter to marry some sandboy from your filthy country...but that is not going to happen because your daughter is mine, and I am hers, and there is nothing you can do about it. Now stop pissing me off before I call INS and tell them that you are Al-Qaeda related."

[Tiay]

LOL, carpflounder.. heh..

hm. Again, I have to say it depends.
But the fact that she tells you that her mom is wrong is a good sign. It is, however, often true that if you tell an untruth often enough, people will start believing it no matter how strong willed. I'd be worried about that only if she spends a lot of time with her mom.

also.. don't worry about being 'successful' enough for her mom, or not earning enough or silly stuff like that. If you did earn a ton, would you want that to be the reason she likes you? She's above that kind of stuff, and if she wasn't you probly wouldn't want that kind of person anyway, so don't allow yourself to worry about earning less than her or not being attractive enough. She sounds like she really likes you. that's all you need.