Im A Cheating Scumbag...Please Help Me!

[Kindle_S]

Ive been with my girlfriend for around 15 months now. Im 18 and still at college. About 10 months ago, I kissed another girl when we met up. Me and my girlfriend were on a break at the time (NO EXCUSE I KNOW IVE SEEN FRIENDS) and it was quite a long kiss. We both to be fair stopped and said it was wrong, I then left straight after and asked this other girl not to EVER tell anyone because I didnt wanna lose my girlfriend. She agreed. I felt like shit, but decided never to tell my girlfriend because Im a coward and didnt wanna lose her. Ive never seen nor spoken to that girl ever since. Never made contact, neither have attempted to.

But as usual, this other girl talked and since then me and my girlfriend have been great. Ive fallen in love with her and she me. So perfect time really. I told her me and this other girl kissed, she was devastated because it seems everyone else knew aswell! (Believe it or not, theres not much difference in people between college and school.) Anyway, my girlfriend since then has brought up the usual (but understandable) questions and accusations. I regret in 1 way not telling her at the time, but at the same time know I definitely would have lost her back then!

Im not sure where we go now, shes hacked into my email account to read past emails, and got completely the wrong idea! Shes not good with computers and has seen forwards etc and tried to pick around at the date. I cant do anything else. Ive told her I love her and dont want 2 lose her, Ive told her that it meant nothing and that the only 1 ive ever wanted is her (my girlfriend.) Shes my world, and the accusations and intervention of others and gossip scares me that Im going to lose her.

What else can I do?

I may be back on later today to update that we have now ended, its all down 2 doing the very hard thing of getting through it together...or not?

please any advice or experience on the matter will help....Calling me a cheating scumbag on the other hand wont, Ive already had plenty of that as youd expect.

[King Zarathu]

Okay, ass. You cheated on your girl and now you're whining because she left? That's incredibly selfish of you. Staying with you would have completely drained her of what [little] self-confidence/self-esteem she had left!

shes hacked into my email account

Shes not good with computers

Oh? Did she open up Accessdiver, grab some proxy servers, hit up a 500,000 wordlist, and brute force Yahoo or some shit? That doesn't make sense. If your second quote is true, then the only way she could have gotten your password is by word of mouth or answering the secret question on mail servers.

If you thought coming to post on this forum would have people to encourage you or tell you it's okay, you're wrong. We're going to give it to you the way it is, believe it or not. I can be pretty sure if it wasn't for this very sentence you wouldn't make another post.

God I hate stupid people...

[pinkpuca84]

unfortunately there is not much u can do. i'm sory. but i totally understand what ur gf must feel. maybe u need to have a really good talk with her, and answer every single question that she has, HONESTLY. dont ever run away from it, and shake it off. my ex did that to me once (not kiss, just a really flirty sms with his female friend) , i completely lost my trust in him. it was uncontrollable that i had to ask him sooo many questions, and all i got from him was "i dont know" and "so?" and "whatever" and "i said sorry already, isnt that enough?" that kinda shit. it only made me ever madder. when we became "alright" again, unconsciously i lost my respect and trust in him, no matter how hard i tried to put my trust back in place. i dont see him like before, and whatever he said never could make me love him the way i did before.

so my suggestion to u is, be VERY honest about it. maybe get ur guy friend explain it to her, hopefully she can forgive u. give her some light from "teenage guy" perspective, and only a guy can give that to her. cos trust me, if she gets any advice from girl, u'll be dead. i'm pretty sure all of her gal friends will tell her to leave u.