Please Help

[bob3434]

Hey guys,I'm in ninth grade and have been in love with this girl for the past 3 years. I'm very shy and I don't know how to approcah her. Please Help

[King Zarathu]

You're going to have to just get the balls and do it. Do you think there's any chance she might have feelings for you too? Be a bit more descriptive.

[bob3434]

Yes, obviously I'm going to have to do it, but can you give me any suggestions on HOW to do it, and WHEN? I'm just not sure if I should do it now or just wait a few years. I have no idea if she likes me, she's also really shy......

[King Zarathu]

Hmmm... well, if she's really shy you might want to do it the way I did it to this one girl who is emotionally unstable... (but then again, she's a female--big surprise)

Get her screenname, get online, tell her "hey.. I need to talk to you. I wanted to do this online because I wasn't sure how you'd take this, and time, privacy, etc... But anyway, I like you [or, insert feelings right here]"

I don't suggest busting off the whole "I'm in love with you" thing unless you're trying to scare the piss out of her.

[bob3434]

I actually never talked to her for the three years that we go to the same school........... Oh well, thx for the advice

[vashti]

I think you should get to know her better before you ask her out. You don't even really know if you like her as a person yet.

Find out what classes she likes at school, what her hobbies are, what she likes to do for fun, etc. Look for some overlap with YOUR interests before you decide you like her. Know what I mean?

[King Zarathu]

I actually never talked to her for the three years that we go to the same school........... Oh well, thx for the advice

Jesus dude! You haven't even talked to this girl? You're going to have to go strike up a conversation or something....

[Junket]

So you think you love her, eh?

Well then you probably shouldn't get to know her, if you do, you'll realize she's not as special as you thought.

[GrkScorp]

Previous Posts from Vashti:

I would think advice about girls would be more accurate coming from females than the advice coming from males. After all, boys, how many times have YOU gone out with a male?

:: Dummies::

Chiodos - my advice still stands. True, it is not advice meant for game-players, because ideally you will outgrow the game-playing stage. This advice won't work if your girl is not interested, but then again, if she's not interested, acting like a game-player won't help you either. Good luck.

One more:

Looking for "signs" can be tricky because boys are very bad at reading signs. I suggest you just tell her you are developing feelings for her, and wonder if she might be interested in a more romantic arrangement.

Ahh.. and finally.. a change of heart:

I think you should get to know her better before you ask her out. You don't even really know if you like her as a person yet.

Find out what classes she likes at school, what her hobbies are, what she likes to do for fun, etc. Look for some overlap with YOUR interests before you decide you like her. Know what I mean?


See.. it's ok to be wrong.. as long as you get things right in the end..

[GrkScorp]

anyway... yeah.. well.. if you haven't told her that you like her for 3 years.. you don't need to tell us that you're shy...

well.. what vashti said was a good start.. after that.. you should really try to be better friends... but never let it reach to the point that she can call you that... you should be her close friend.. but not in a social context... hmm...

it's kind of hard explaining this to a 9th grader... no offense..

well.. you should not be shy.. that's number one...

Reasons why you shouldn't be shy...

If you are.. she won't like you.. (do i need to explain more?)
You will make a really attractive and enticing impression on her..
You may even discourage and blow off other competition you may have..

Plus.. the sooner you shake off being shy.. the sooner you can start getting her more attracted to you..

Two words kid.. and remember them through life... "Cocky-Funny"

[vashti]

See.. it's ok to be wrong.. as long as you get things right in the end..

What are you talking about? My advice looks pretty consistent to me. How old are you?

[Junket]

Two words kid.. and remember them through life... "Cocky-Funny"

Ba-da. See Vash?

It's a brilliant strategy, and I'm certainly not the only one to acknowledge it.

[vashti]

But the difference is that you, Frasbee, actually ARE funny, and what you label "cockiness" is called "confidence" by women.

[King Zarathu]

Two words kid.. and remember them through life... "Cocky-Funny"

DeAngelo ftw.

[Gigabitch]

Bob, you have a crush. It's 90% fantasy. The object of the crush never turns out to be who you wanted them to be. It's probably worthwhile to get to know her anyway, but don't be disappointed when you realize she's just a human like yourself.