Trying to start a relationship

[TDurden]

Well, let's see. You can't talk to her about it. Ignoring her is not working fast enough...

okay, I've got something. I think you should invite her out on a DATE date, not just a movie or something. Invite her out for a really nice dinner, take her dancing if you're that kind of guy. Kick it up a notch.

i gotta say, i feel pretty stupid that i never thought of just asking her out to an obviously date like situation. dinner it is!

[pythongrace]

Don't spend anymore money on her please. She might just be using you to watch free movies, the latest ones.

[TDurden]

Don't spend anymore money on her please. She might just be using you to watch free movies, the latest ones.

lol. i don't know too many people who'd be willing to commit 6 months of their time to the occasional free movie.

[Gigabitch]

Did you ask her out or what?

[pythongrace]

lol. i don't know too many people who'd be willing to commit 6 months of their time to the occasional free movie.

My sister committed 1 year of her time to get free movies. I guess she was really broke at the time. And the guy was not her type.

Anyways, I just think you should not be spending money on a girl if you don't at least get a kiss on the lips. I understand if you only treated her once. But for months..ehhh..

[TDurden]

well, i was planning on asking her out, but then i got an email from her saying basically that she was stressing about college coming up and all that jazz. so i've given her a little bit of room and offered my support. i'll ask her out within the next week though, i just didn't want to address the dating thing while she was already overstressed.

[TDurden]

so its been almost 2 weeks since i've talked to her. i know she's probably stressed and all, but i haven't even gotten an email. would one assume this is normal given the timing or is there something more?

[lissa]

Sorry to say she is not interested in being anything but friends. She's just not. One of the easiest ways to tell if someone likes you is to test their proximity. A small touch on the hand, or an arm around the shoulder makes someone uncomfortable, then they aren't feeling you in that way. Even the most nervous person, when interested, will let you into their personal space in small ways.

I would just move on. If she were really interested, she'd have talked to you by now. There is someone out there for you who will treat you right. Go look for her. Good luck!

[TDurden]

i certainly appreciate your advice, but as far as the proximity thing goes, thats vague as well. when we watch movies we usually sit really close together, close enough that our arms are usually touching. my point is, i guarantee i'm not in the friend zone. there are certain things that have happened that guarantee that that's not the case. and after seven months, (6 of which she's known i like her), i would assume that if she were to stop talking it would've been long ago.

[Gigabitch]

Jeeze, TD. Quit being such a weenie. Call her up and ask her out. If she's too busy, ask her out for later. When's her birthday?

[TDurden]

her birthday was in january. and its not like i've not tried to contact her. so far this week i've left two messages with her parents for her to call me. you have to believe me when i say i'm working my ass off here trying to get things going. i really am. there is another complication, which, while it may be helpful in figuring out what to do, is very personal for her and i wouldn't feel right mentioning it without her go ahead. needless to say it makes contacting her more difficult than it normally would be.

[TDurden]

UPDATE: i talked to her today, and we're gonna hang out in next weekend. things are lookin good

[Gigabitch]

Bump.

Okay, THEN what happened?

[King Zarathu]

Bump.

Okay, THEN what happened?

She's a ****ing flake.