Hey vashti, thinker, henry, and all you other folks,
For Vashti-- 1st you have to remember that I am a girl and I'm the one who wishes he had been as honest and direct with me as I was with him. No I'm not going to send him any more messages, but let me give you and some of you other guys a little more info. I really appreciate your posts... esp. thinker's,
but I just want you all to know that I met this guy through... Match.com... and I was determned not to get into a relationship for "fun". I stated in my profile and to him more than once that I was looking for something serious and that I was looking for love. I think that I have the right to be angry because he dangled the idea in front of me that this relationship could become serious. He also claimed to be looking for the real thing and to not be a commitment phobe. We had a ton of conversations about how things could work between us. And he even said that he could work at this place right around the corner from me.
And for the record we would talk over the phone every other day and see each other once a week and he opened up to me and me to him.. I told him about my rapist, emotionally abusive ex and everything..... so, this is not a myspace relationship... it just has been this way in the last 24hrs. I'm 23yrs. old and he is 26, not a baby.
So, I guess I was stupid to think he was getting feelings for me huh? And I guess that I was supposed to magically know that he intended on leaving me regardless of if he loved me or not.... or that long distance dating just seems not to be an option no matter how long we date before he leaves. He could be stuck here another 4 months for all either one of us knows! And with this job market and him not living where he wants to work... this is very very highly likey. I make way more than he does right now and he can't afford to go anywhere. See what I'm saying? I could continue seeing this guy for like 8 months and then he's all of a sudden gonna get up and leave. That's what has all of a sudden occurred to me.
Please don't hold him up on a pedestal and make me out to be the one who's been vague a little dishonest. I'm the one who feels blind sided and unloved and heart broken. And as if some of my time has been wasted inorder for him to have companionship while he waits for a job to come his way.