The ex you can't forget

[Mathias]

Who doesnt wonder on what actually was and how things could have been, sounds completely natural to me moreso when current relationships are in a time of turbulence, there'll always be some form of reminisce.

This is what I'm afraid is the problem. I feel more attraction to her now that I've been through all this.

So, I think the best thing to do is to keep talking to her, but not even come close to trying anything until everything settles down in my own life.

[Gigabitch]

However, we BOTH just ran into the same problem. Both our (now) exes decided they didn't want to do it anymore, and so we've been communicating again to help each other through it. There has been flirting in the e-mails/conversations, but nothing serious.

Do you think this is random coincidence?
I'm having a hard time with that one, because I generally believe that everything happens by chance, but really, what are the odds of you both being available at the same time?

How far away is she?

[Mathias]

Do you think this is random coincidence?
I'm having a hard time with that one, because I generally believe that everything happens by chance, but really, what are the odds of you both being available at the same time?

How far away is she?

I don't believe in fate, so that's a hard one for me to answer.

Considering our histories, though, it's pretty slim that we'd be single at the same time. But, if anything were to happen with her, I'd want us both to be healed from our past problems.

And she's 756 miles away, according to Mapquest.

[Mathias]

Mathias and I both have this- an ex we can't forget.

My story: Whirlwind romance 12 years ago, I broke up with him because I'm a fool but we stayed in touch, I was with my husband for almost 11 years, we got divorced, now I want my ex back.

I went to see him in California last month and we reconnected in a very physical way. Now we are e-mailing and talking on the phone, but not enough for my taste, and we're both pretty stumped about what to do with this whole California / New Mexico problem. Neither of us is planning to relocate.

How long have you been divorced?

Can you actually see a future with this guy, or is he just a guy you've built up to be "ideal" in your head?

[Gigabitch]

How long have you been divorced?

Can you actually see a future with this guy, or is he just a guy you've built up to be "ideal" in your head?

My divorce was final in January of this year. The marriage was over long before that, sadly.

As far as the old/ new guy goes, yes, I can actually see a future with him. I can think myself inside out about him and convince myself that it's too hard, not worth the trouble, bla, bla, bla, but in the end- he makes me feel good. Steady (unless I haven't heard from him in a week- then I go apeshit, but that's my problem, not his).

He's good for me. I want him.

[Mathias]

My divorce was final in January of this year. The marriage was over long before that, sadly.

As far as the old/ new guy goes, yes, I can actually see a future with him. I can think myself inside out about him and convince myself that it's too hard, not worth the trouble, bla, bla, bla, but in the end- he makes me feel good. Steady (unless I haven't heard from him in a week- then I go apeshit, but that's my problem, not his).

He's good for me. I want him.

Interesting, but obviously, it would be a serious problem for either of you to move, so that could create a huge problem. People that make you feel good are very underrated, though...and becoming pretty rare. Is there *any* way this could work?

[Gigabitch]

Interesting, but obviously, it would be a serious problem for either of you to move, so that could create a huge problem. People that make you feel good are very underrated, though...and becoming pretty rare. Is there *any* way this could work?

For me, yes. We could make this work somehow, especially because we're both old enough at this point to know what we'd be missing out on if we didn't. I'm finding myself thinking more about relocating.

For you? I don't know. She's a long way away, and I'm not sure what's going on in your lives- is she in school too?

[Mathias]

For me, yes. We could make this work somehow, especially because we're both old enough at this point to know what we'd be missing out on if we didn't. I'm finding myself thinking more about relocating.

For you? I don't know. She's a long way away, and I'm not sure what's going on in your lives- is she in school too?

Well, I was talking about you. If it's a possibility, I'd definitely keep exploring it. That's interesting, and cool that you'd even think about that kind of commitment.

As for me, it's not something I'd do (obviously) right now. She's actually out of school--she's teaching.

[carbon]

I've seen this girl for a total of 34 days in my entire life. Yet, I'm like Giga...every time this comes around, I think about her. Yipe.

somewhat similar to mathias' story...

goes something like this:

the ex in question and i met 4 years ago while doing summer research at a college that neither of us attended - he was a rising senior, i was a rising junior. i remember having great conversations with him that summer. he gave me a feeling that is a hard to describe to this day...i felt comfortable, safe, like i was in the right place when i was with him, like someone actually understood me... but we didn't date. when the summer ended we decided to keep in touch.

he visited me when he was interviewing for med schools near my college. stuff happens during the visit...drama ensues when i find out that he is dating someone back home. he ends up matriculating at a med school that is about 2 hrs away from my college at the time. more drama...we end up dating, but the relationship ended in less than a month... for a lot of reasons that i still don't understand. of course i was hurt tremendously when we broke up but we decided to remain freinds..easier said than done...

we've been talking on and off for the past two years, but the friendship - if it could even be called such - has been tumultuous. bascially, a lot of hurting, a bit of talking, and no physical meeting at all, until very recently.

so this guy, someone that i have known for the past 4 years, during which time i have thought about him for 2 years straight, dated him for a month, and again have been thinking about for the past 2 years, a guy who i have seen for maybe 50 days in total (during the time we dated, we only saw eachother on weekends) is the guy that i can't seem to forget.

[Gigabitch]

Wow, carbon, that sounds kinda harsh. It sounds like a lot of yearning and not a lot of satisfaction.

Any future in it?

[derm]

He's good for me. I want him.

Then go get him gurly!....Go go gooo

My divorce was final in January of this year. The marriage was over long before that, sadly.

As far as the old/ new guy goes, yes, I can actually see a future with him. I can think myself inside out about him and convince myself that it's too hard, not worth the trouble, bla, bla, bla, but in the end- he makes me feel good. Steady (unless I haven't heard from him in a week- then I go apeshit, but that's my problem, not his).

He's good for me. I want him.

Giga you can never have a guy thats too hard

[Gigabitch]

Then go get him gurly!....Go go gooo



Giga you can never have a guy thats too hard

Heh heh, I must concur. He's going to be here this month, and by here, I mean...y'know...here. (Points to Hello Kitty).

[derm]

(Points to Hello Kitty).

lol is that what ye ladies call ye're thing a mi jig?....lol RALAGHK

[Gigabitch]

lol is that what ye ladies call ye're thing a mi jig?....lol RALAGHK

Only me. Hello Kitty is MINE. And I'm afraid I'm going to have to ask you to explain RALAGHK to me. I'm none too bright, you see.

[derm]

[QUOTE=Gigabitch;227067]Only me. Hello Kitty is MINE. QUOTE]

oh man that IS the best yet!

And I'm afraid I'm going to have to ask you to explain RALAGHK to me.

Normally it's LOL= laughing out loud as you well know or
RALMAO=Rooling around laughing my arse off

However there are variations where you gotta guess, such as

RALAGHK=Rooling aroung laughing at Giga's Hello Kitty