i don't know what i want so can somebody help me?

[LostNotFound]

ok here it goes. my other half and i have decided to get married and we also decided to keep quiet about it.

however, my family don't know about him and his don't know about me. that's how quiet we've kept it.

we've been together for a long long time, and the problem is that he doesn't want to meet them untill 'he can prove himself'. by this i mean have money,afford a car, house etc. so we can live happily ever after.

i want the same things as he does but i get really depressed especailly at nights when he's not around. he's my best friend and i don't want to mess this up, but i don't want to go to bed crying every nigth cause he's not here. i don't want to pressure him either cause i know every chance he gets to see me he does, and he's working hard for us.

so this is long and i don't really know what i'm askin for but yes uem.. ..thanks for reading.

[vashti]

How old are you guys? And why have you not met each other's families?

[LostNotFound]

19, 20. his don't think im good enough for him and mine think the same about him. we have contrasting backgrounds although our families are more alike than they think... we decided to keep it quiet cause it was best. like i said he wants to prove himself now. he wants to be able to say he's earning, has a house and all the rest of it.

[michaelmorgan]

Marriage is not an option for your age and situation right now.
At least marriage without a stable income.

I know you really love each other, but marriage won't necessary make you love each other more. Your love and connection can grow without it too.

[Zach]

I think getting married right now in your life would end being one of the biggest mistakes of your life. I highly suggest waiting, growing closer.. then maybe moving in together for a while and when your a bit older maybe consider marriage after you know living together is even a possibility.

--Zach

[vashti]

19, 20. his don't think im good enough for him and mine think the same about him. we have contrasting backgrounds although our families are more alike than they think... we decided to keep it quiet cause it was best. like i said he wants to prove himself now. he wants to be able to say he's earning, has a house and all the rest of it.

How would they know he isn't good enough for you if they haven't even met him?

Anyway, you are too young to be married, and I think both of you should finish your education before thinking about settling down. Just my opinion...

[Paranthropus]

Marriage at 19 and 20 is way to early!!!

[Gigabitch]

Marriage. So easy to get into. So difficult to get out of.

Let me tell you from experience- getting married will exacerbate your problems, not fix them. It's really hard to hold a marriage together these days even with family support. If they're not on board, it looks pretty bleak. Give yourselves a chance and wait.

[Zach]

Marriage. So easy to get into. So difficult to get out of.

Let me tell you from experience- getting married will exacerbate your problems, not fix them. It's really hard to hold a marriage together these days even with family support. If they're not on board, it looks pretty bleak. Give yourselves a chance and wait.

Listen to her. Seriously.