i have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years,im from england, hes irish, so we had long distance for a year, then lived together for the last 4.im 25, he is 29.
right from day one i knew he owned his own house,its something he always wanted,he got it when he was 20, worked hard on it,and did everything himself.
ok so heres the problem.
i have to move back to england, its perminant, my son really isnt happy in ireland, and he isnt doing too good at school,so i know i have to do what is best for him..its not just a case of him being unhappy here, his grades are falling all the time,he misses his family,although he gets to see them once per month,and in school holidays.
the problem is, my partner doesnt want to give up his house.we have had many talks about this,and i have felt so much.it feels like he is willing to loose me over bricks and morter,like the last five years didnt even happen,a few months ago we were talking about marriage and the future,now it doesnt look like we have one.
i dont know how to feel, i know he had the house before i met him, i know he worked hard on it and i do understand his reasons for not wanting to loose it,am i evil for even asking him to give everything up to start a new life with me? its just when you compare a house with the relationship we have had it doesnt make sense :-(
people have told me i cant expect him to give his entire life up to be with me, they seem to forget that i did that for him, i lost friends,my home, everything to move over here and i feel like its all been for nothing.
i am telling the truth when i say this is the only problem we have had in five years,thats why it hurts so much,because im going to loose the man that i love when i dont even have to.
i told him to rent the house out,that way we can be together,but he doesnt like that idea as the people who move in might mistreat it,put the idea in his head to just sell it and we buy one together,not an option. does anyone have any ideas or shall i just walk out of his life forever? from a guys perspective does this guy love me or is it some kind of a game?