Falling Back in Love with my Ex

[heartsick]

Thanks to all of you for this wonderful community you all have here. I've been browsing some of the posts every now and then made by people who faced similar situations to mine and finally decided to register
Anyway, me and my ex broke up around 3 years ago. The time when we dated (around 6 months) was the best time of my life.
After the breakup, our relationship deteriorated and we reached the point where we lost contact. She went to study abroad and we didn't talk for 2 years or so.
One year ago I figured she's in town so I gave her a call and we started hanging out again with the usual group of friends we hang out with. As time passed by, I found myself falling back in love with her. Every single time we hang out there's this part of me hurting, wanting her to get close to me again. To her, we're just "good friends" now and I don't know how to break from the "good friends" cage. She doesn't return my calls too often and whenever I ask her to hang out she's busy with something so we usually hang out once per 10 days or so..
I've been thinking all the time about what should I do to get back with her? I even stopped eating too well, had trouble concentrating when doing some university research, etc..
Now I've had some opportunities to date girls but didn't get close to any of them because the girls were nothing like my ex. I feel like she's the only one in this world that makes me feel complete.
What should I do? I've lost interest in all girls and don't want to be with anyone but her. It's like there is her, and then everybody else. Oh and currently she's not in a relationship.
I'll post more details later.. Help!

[Junket]

People are gonna wanna know why you broke up in the first place.

[heartsick]

Sure. We broke up primarily because I felt that we didn't spend enough time with each other. I wanted to be with her more but she wanted to divide her time equally between me and her friends. It's all my fault for wanting more and pressuring her..
Another reason is because of the insecurity I had in the past. I used to worry that she'll leave me all the time and it killed me.
The last month of our relationship ended up with me being more hurt than happy.

[ExpoNovak]

All you can do is give it another shot and see if the same old problems resurface. If you love her that much, then perhaps it will be easier to work things out this time around.

[heartsick]

Thanks for the advice..
The thing is, I honestly have no clue how should I give it another shot while being in the dreaded "good friends" zone. I'm afraid that if I make a wrong move, it'll destroy what we currently have and things will be very awkward..

[ExpoNovak]

Well, you're lucky in a way because she did at one point see you as boyfriend material and may very well see you as that again. Just monitor her signals and reactions just like you did the first time you got together. You could always just ask her. If she says no then you aren't losing anything but the time with her which would serve no purpose but to hurt you anyway if she didn't feel the same.

[Gigabitch]

Now I've had some opportunities to date girls but didn't get close to any of them because the girls were nothing like my ex. I feel like she's the only one in this world that makes me feel complete.

This is a red flag for me. You're exactly the kind of ex-boyfriend I would never consider getting back together with because of this. I'm only interested in a man who is already complete and isn't likely to become a sucking black hole of need.

She wants to dance and you don't know how to lead. I've only read a few paragraphs and I've formed a pretty strong opinion about how incredibly unattractive you must be to her.

The good news is, you can change this. You should, even if it doesn't result in being reunited with her. It will serve you well for the rest of your life.

For the four hundredth time, nothing is as attractive as confidence, and the guy you describe yourself to be is a weenie. You MUST change how you're presenting yourself to her, or you will never get out of the dreaded friend zone.