BF ego problem after we wrestled

[Tiay]

I'm sorry that happened to you, Tiay. it's totally unfair.
and I agree w/you i'm not going to let him alter what happened.

hooray for you! I'm glad. Man, I wish I knew judo so I could fend off the creepy guy(s) who are stalking me at college. Damn it! Why does this always happen to me? But, that's for a whole different thread.

[jenster]

hooray for you! I'm glad. Man, I wish I knew judo so I could fend off the creepy guy(s) who are stalking me at college. Damn it! Why does this always happen to me? But, that's for a whole different thread.

I hate to think thats happening to you sweetie. If you want to know any judo tips, just ask!

meanwhile, i have to make a decision about whether i talk to my BF in person or not...i think i should but i hate the idea of getting into a big thing w/him esp. after what happened.

we talked on the phone las night but i couldnt bring myself to break off w/him like that so i just told him i'm really mad and he still wants to know if i told anyone about our wrestling matches. he is still SO freaked out that i beat him.

[Junket]

I hate to think thats happening to you sweetie. If you want to know any judo tips, just ask!

meanwhile, i have to make a decision about whether i talk to my BF in person or not...i think i should but i hate the idea of getting into a big thing w/him esp. after what happened.

we talked on the phone las night but i couldnt bring myself to break off w/him like that so i just told him i'm really mad and he still wants to know if i told anyone about our wrestling matches. he is still SO freaked out that i beat him.

Don't let him worm his way in.

Draw a line, and don't let him cross it.

You may be able to beat his ass physically, but can you withstand him emotionally?

[jenster]

Don't let him worm his way in.

Draw a line, and don't let him cross it.

You may be able to beat his ass physically, but can you withstand him emotionally?

I know. I have to remind myself of that. I dont think he's going to just nod his head and say 'ok' when i tell him i want to break up.

[Junket]

It doesn't matter what he's gonna say.

In fact, it doesn't even have to be a conversation. You can just lay it like it is, and walk out, you're under no obligation to hear anymore of what he has to say.

If you're no longer in a relationship with him, his feelings no longer matter to you. There is a no "we", anymore. As such, you only have yourself to worry about.

[misombra]

Write him a letter.

Dear You,

I can't date you anymore. You're a pussy and you drive me crazy.

Goodbye.

Jenster

[Gribble]

Tell him you want to break up. And if he doesn't accept it, pin him to the ground, call him a pussy and punch him in the balls.

[jenster]

Tell him you want to break up. And if he doesn't accept it, pin him to the ground, call him a pussy and punch him in the balls.

Jeez, Gribble! You sound like your more pissed at him than I am!

[Tiay]

that's 'cos gribble's waiting for you to be single

anyway, they're right. Breaking up isn't a joint decision. You don't need his agreement to break up with him, because you're not his property. I do understand that you want to get closure, and it'd be nice to part on somewhat friendly terms... but I don't see that happening. He doesn't want to "let" you break up with him.

[Gigabitch]

The power struggle continues....

[jenster]

The power struggle continues....

I'm afraid so. I spoke w/him on the phone and said he should come over b/c we needed to talk and he said "i'm not coming over if your just going to break up w/me" so i said "fine, then i'm doing it now--i cant take this anymore" and he pleaded w/me to give him another chance and I said "you cant even admit that you ambushed me during our wrestling match" and he insisted thats not how it happened and I said 'we have nothing left to talk about" but he kept saying how a misunderstanding shouldnt end things...

and i said "Ok, in theory then, what would your reaction be if i told you i wanted to keep taking judo lessons and move up another belt level?" and he paused and was like "you dont need to do that--why dont you just forget about judo--thats what caused all these problems in the first place"....and I was like "No, that was YOU b/c your ego couldnt deal w/getting beaten by a girl" and on and on it went...

finally i just got exhausted w/it and he begged and begged to come over so we could talk "face to face" and finally i said "Fine but i dont think its going to change anything"...so i was too tired after the conversation to see him then but i said he could come over tmw (he has things at my place he should take anyway)...

i just want to be done w/this already and cant see why he thinks seeing me in person will help, but i do think there's something for breaking up face to face instead of over the phone. I dont know if hes up to something or just desperate.

[IndiReloaded]

Prediction: you're not going to break up w/him.

[Gigabitch]

Jenster, he's counting on how handsome and charming he is. He thinks you'll take one look in his green eyes and forget all that 'silliness" about judo and breaking up with him. Either you're much more weak-willed in person than you sound on LF or he doesn't have a clue as to who you are.

IMO, he treats you like an accessory. I hope you make him cry.

[Junket]

Prediction: you're not going to break up w/him.

Seriously, anybody who tells you to stop doing something that is only bettering yourself is a no-go.

Don't be his bitch.

You have a whole forum of people experienced in the ways of relationships, telling you why you should break up with him.

My word alone is worth 10 of his.

Giga's, Vashti's, and Indie's, even more so.

We're in your corner. He's not.

[vashti]

If you insist on meeting with him, be very careful. I don't trust him to not act violently. He has no self control and a huge ego... that is a bad combination.

Anyway, indi is probably right. They will probably reconcile.