Mantrum

[Ashliejae]

alright yes i said mantrum, much like what a child would through. How do you deal with them i mean they are so mindless. Today we went to go shopping the roads where pretty much clear of snow but he bitched the whole way there about how slow people where driving then we went to go get food to make dinner the lady at the check out was stupid i guess. Then we get home and he starts making a sandwich, i was like what the hell are you doing. And he got pissed. It seem like i dont know whats going on with him. How do i deal with them, hell should i deal with it or should i just tell him to grow up any idea's...



Ash

[TheSphinx]

The last time I threw a "mantrum," as you put it, was in conditions similar to the ones you stated, though a long time ago.

I remember it distinctly because the woman I was with at the time said nothing. She simply laughed.

Not the kind of laugh aimed at one's misfortunes, but rather one which came from the realization of the absurdity and futility of my colorful rants and hand gestures. I was brought to laughter myself as I truly understood what I was doing.

I still think back to that moment when faced with similar situations today.

I don't know if laughter will solve your problem, Ash, perhaps one of the other posters here will offer more direct advice.

I do know that when I come to a realization myself, that it is much more powerful and is integrated into who I am much quicker than by being told, "I should grow up."

~Sphinx

[Mish]

Then we get home and he starts making a sandwich, i was like what the hell are you doing.

Are you sure you weren't the one having one?

[Ashliejae]

no i was not having one i was already irritated yes i think any one would be. It a lot to deal with when he just slams into a women at the store cuz he thinks shes in his way. But laughing might work, seems silly really but when i think about it its funny,

[vashti]

I don't think it is funny that he spends all his time criticizing other people. I would get really sick of hearing that in a very short amount of time.

I wouldn't care about the sandwich, though. I don't know why YOU did...

[miSSleepy]

All I can make out was that he bitched about people driving slow. You mentioned the check out lady being stupid, and then the man made a sandwhich ....
Maybe I'm missing the point here ... what exactly is the fuss?

[Ashliejae]

well we went to the store to get something i needed to cook dinner with and i was not about to cook dinner for about an hour if he was going to eat a sandwich, thats a waste of my time.

[miSSleepy]

So he was really hungry. My bf sometimes eats something before dinner/lunch is finished and still manages to eat everything I prepare.

[Michael6084]

I could see why Ashliejae could get annoyed by the BF for making a sandwich after taking a trip to the market though. It's wintertime, people are driving slow, and you spend time going to the supermarket to plan out this dinner. Come home, he makes a sandwich after all that. Added the bitching and moaning too.

But what I ask is this: did you end up making the dinner anyway? Did he eat it after finishing the sandwich?

If so, I don't think it's too much to worry about really.

[Ashliejae]

actually he threw the loaf of bread on the floor it explode he went and sat in our bed room i cleaned up the bread and made dinner. He ate dinner we watched a movie and went to bed

[vashti]

He probably didn't appreciate your acting like his momma, and so he retaliated by acting like a child.

[thefallenheart]

we all get days like that in winter.

its cold, dark, rainy, gray, misserable and wet. your skin needs sunlight and everyone about you seems out to mock you. and then the cold and damp get into your bones and they ache.

people in front of you driving slow is irritating at the best of times.

add all of these things together and you just feel like snapping at everyone.

and people generely eat more in winter.

and its spelt 'Tantrum'

[miSSleepy]

and its spelt 'Tantrum'

well there we go, some of the confusion has gone from my head, but the rest still remains. I think both the OP and her partner need to grow up ... just my opinion.

[Gigabitch]

and its spelt 'Tantrum'

Mantrum is Man + tantrum. Jeeze. Was it really that hard to figure out?

Ash, I think he was just having a low blood sugar moment. Unless he acts like this all the time, I think you should let it slide.

Throwing the bread on the floor was over the line, though, IMO. What a little bitch he can be sometimes, right?

[thefallenheart]

Mantrum is Man + tantrum. Jeeze. Was it really that hard to figure out?

for the pourpouse of clarity whilst asking a question methinks annoying buzz-words should be avoided.