2's are betta..!?

[genesys4]

last holiday, I went to 1 of my best friends wedding with another best fren of mine, whom's a gurl. the wedding took place 2 states away from where we stay(we stayed at a fren's house for 3 days). so we went out for several occasions to many places in search of bus , train or plane tickets to get there.

the thing is my fren(the gurl) whom I went out with is kinda shy person, but she's quite open to best fren, such as me. we went out a few times, but we're not on path to engage any relationship. but the thing is we travel 2getha across places, and do a lotta things almost 2getha.

my Q is, I can control my feeling as to keep the things that we did on frenship basis. I wanna know from the gurl's POV, could this thing lead to anything or to 'you-fall-4me' kinda thing?? bcoz I heard dat she kinda showed the signs already...

[GrkScorp]

could this thing lead to anything or to 'you-fall-4me' kinda thing?? bcoz I heard dat she kinda showed the signs already...

Depends on a couple of other things, the issue of age can come up.. judging from your aol-speak.. i'm guessing it's not over 30..

Don't forget, weddings serve as a reminder to girls that they're single and alone, and fears of things staying that way start to hit in mild-to-strong degrees..

If you didn't get her number, let it be, it's not your job to chase..

If you have her contact info.. call her up or e-mail her.. and use the classic high school line.. "what's up?" seriously.. it's so simple.. and it's so sad that it works so well.. not desperate, but starting up a conversation somehow at the same time..

Have a plan, and make sure it's not exclusive to just you and her.. (in other words, don't say something like.. "what are you doing ___, maybe we can hang out then"... NO.. and for obvious reasons.. instead try something more along the lines of.. "We're actually going to ____ with a couple of people on ____, let me know if you want to come, but try and tell me by Friday, just to know how many people are comming").. The point is comfort-building, creating a feeling and sense of familiarity, ease, trust, safety, and security.. If she's not feeling comfortable enough to go out with you and a couple of your friends, how on earth is she going to feel comfortable enough to go out when it's just the two of you alone, that's way too much pressure for a little girl..

Also, keep the focus in mind.. the focus is not "getting to the next stage".. it's not going out, it's not dating, etc.. The focus is "her".. that's right.. If you don't really like her, then what's the point? Now, if you like her, and you start to realize that you really like her.. then just dive in and explore everything there is about her.. let it be a mutual process.. and the next stage has a habit of comming on naturally..

So, before you contact her to talk to her again.. keep all of that in mind..

Best,

GrkScorp

[genesys4]

urmm, we did go out 2getha b4 (of coz it's all under frenship), and I have all her phone no, email add, myspace and all the stuff ...bcoz we are best frens. the thing is she'll continue furthering her studies, when most of her frenz had already finished and the ones left are married(the wedding we went to).
so I kinda think wat u said b4 is dat weddings kinda serve as a reminder for single, lonely gurl such as her, is true.
but does every1??