Little situation that I need help with...hopefully "little" at least

[123456]

i posted a topic on here a few months ago about a girl that i said i KNOW has feelings for me but just wouldn't admit it. heres the thread: loveforum.net/love-advice-forum/19709-hooked-girl-ive-known-12-years-but-theres-some-problems-long.html

well she ended up coming back here (she lives in chicago, i live in arizona now) in Feb and we both let everything out. she admitted her feelings came back and stronger than ever

long story short, when she went back to chicago we'd talk all the time. she'd tell me she loves me to death, she even wants to marry me and both of our families know that now because she told everyone. she sits there talking to people about her wedding everyday. BUT here's the problem...she tried leaving her boyfriend after a few days when she came back and he threatened to kill himself so she's scared to leave him. shes tryin so hard to make him leave her but nothings working. she used to stay the night at his house every night but since she went back she hasnt. she's probably seen him 6 or 7 times the whole month that she's been back.

now i'm supposed to be going to chicago and getting a room for me to stay in for a week on april 5...this whole month that me and her have been talking she told me she wants me to come so she can stay with me. she's been begging me. but yesterday her sister told me "she would feel like a whore because she technically didn't break up with her boyfriend" so she won't come stay with me. i think it hit her this past week that me coming is really happening so she's getting nervous but i don't know. but this part's killing me that she's been leading me on so much and now she doesn't wanna come.

i think the problem with all of this is just that she hasn't left her boyfriend yet. she doesn't know how to do it without hurting him so bad.

any advice?

[FoxyLaydee]

he threatened to kill himself so she's scared to leave him.

How sure are you that he threatened to commit suicide?

shes tryin so hard to make him leave her but nothings working.

How about telling him that she is in love and wants to marry another guy?

"she would feel like a whore because she technically didn't break up with her boyfriend" so she won't come stay with me.

That could be true or she's feeling guilty now. There are cake-eaters out there, you know.

i think the problem with all of this is just that she hasn't left her boyfriend yet. she doesn't know how to do it without hurting him so bad.

I can understand that but going behind his back - confessing her love for someone else is already hurting him, just that HE doesn't know that.

How long are you going/willing to wait till "the right time comes for her to break it off"? When is the right time to break off with someone!?