Originally Posted by
Lozenger
We like who we happen to fall for and you can't switch off those feelings (not so easily anyway)
"Attraction is not a choice" by D'Angelo
Look.. you're going about this the wrong way.. I looked at your post and wondered what on earth it was doing on the "ask a female" section of this forum..
When you ask a guy "what do you like about a girl? etc..".. he can break down a roadmap to his heart.. he knows what he likes.. he knows what he's looking for.. and that's why guys go out.. see someone who is exactly what they're looking for.. and get placed under a love-spell.. Now.. ask the same question to women.. and well.., you've been getting those types of (beat around the bush) answers.. "anything BUT.. I like a guy who is X, Y, Z..".. and that's because they don't know what they want.. (Correction)
They want it all.. in an ideal fantasy world.. where every woman is the most beautiful, desireable, wanted, valuable woman on earth.. she wants the "perfect man" of "her dreams".. with everything.. and this perfect man will be too modest to know he's perfect.. and he will fall into her lap.. fate and chance will bring them together (don't bother asking why on earth the perfect man would want HER out of all women.. it doesn't matter.. this is her fantasy.. and in her fantasy.. she won't bother asking herself this question.. so don't bother asking such things).. it will be meant to be.. This is why you can't get an (X, Y, Z) answer.. because the list would never end.. But don't be intimidated.. that's not at all the reality of the situation.. relax.. unless every guy is perfect.. there's a reason you see couples together.. and that's because although she may want it all.. she may want the perfect man.. and she may not be able to know exactly what she's looking for.. she's also willing to put her fantasies of her "perfect man" aside and settle for Slightly Above Average Joe on any day of the week.. she will then try and get Joe to be the perfect man.. but when she realizes that she can't make Joe into the perfect man.. she'll either dump Joe for Slightly Better Than Joe.. or she'll convince herself that Joe is in fact the perfect man for her..
Revealed Preferences:
(Real-Estate) Sure.., a buyer comes to take a look at your home.. she's interested.. but won't tell you how much she's willing to offer.. she doesn't want to reveal such valuable information.. if you're willing to accept less than she's willing to offer.. she just got a bargain.. So if you ask her something like.. "what would you be willing to offer" or "what's you offer"? She would have to hit you back with a (beat around the bush) answer of "how much would you be happy with? I know you're asking for $800,000.. but how low would you go?".. Obviously.. you both don't want to give away this information.. it's an informational battle.. and to be honest.. you may not really know the answer to her question.. she may not really know how high she's willing to go herself! But there's one way to find out.. to look at previous offers she's made for similar properties and houses on the market..
(Dating) Sure.. you can ask.. "what do you look for in a guy".. and you can end up with a thread that looks like this.. OR.. you can ask something like.. "have you been in a relationship with a guy before?".. "how did it start?".. "what did it feel like when you first met him or saw him?".. "what were you thinking in the very beginning?".. "when did you first start to feel like you liked him?".. "what did you like about him?".. "what were the couple of things that really made you think to yourself that you wanted to be in a relationship with this guy?"..., you might get some more meaningful information to work with..
(No.. i'm not going to answer this question.. I think it's more fun to look at the answers you're going to get.. this is personally a favorite question of mine that I like to ask women.. for women.. it's a vague and open-ended question.. they have no idea how to answer it.. they simply don't know how to give a complete answer.. which is why it's so amusing to see the responses you get)
Note: Just as with guys.. no two women have the exact same taste or preferences.. so when you hear someone tell you "I love a man who can dance".. don't go running off to take dance lessons..
Note: (Says one thing, means an other principle).. I'm 5'11.. i've gone out with girls who have told me not just in the very beginning.., but multiple times.. "I love tall guys" & "I don't think i'd be able to go out with a guy who is shorter than me".. Remember.. it's not the actual "height" she's attracted to.. just the way "being around a tall man makes her feel".. Makes her feel like he's a powerful man.. a strong man.. his height alone creates this image in her mind.. but don't stop there..., this makes her feel safe and protected when she's around him.. she likes that "feeling" of being around a man like that.. So if you can extract that kind of information.. and get to the bottom of "why" she said that.. what does she "mean" when she "says" she likes a tall man.. and give her that "feeling" she likes.., you just catered to her needs and wants.. you are now the man who can satisfy them.. (and unless you want to hook up with any one of our many lovely ladies on LF "that would be all of them".. you should start eliciting HER values.. and not worry about what OTHER women like)
Best,
GrkScorp
Last edited by GrkScorp; 10-04-08 at 11:54 AM.
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