love = sex?

[Mish]

I liked that passage Rose, thanks

Just wanted to expand it a bit:


3 If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it;* but if I didn't love others, I would be of no value whatsoever.2

4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud

5 or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged.

6 It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.

7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

[luvispower]

thanks for the passage.. it really helped me to control myself a bit.although im a christian but not a really holy one..
but now the problem is not that anymore..
does your partner rather spend 6 hours per day to study (mind you she is studying accounting n i am taking engineering) n wont even spend 2 hours to chat with u? by the way we r in a long distance relationship.. we quarreled hundred of times bcuz of that..I really gif up..I dont want a gf who loves "study" more than me T.T

[luvispower]

Gods rose, i have the determination to wait. but sometimes i really just cant control, what can i do? do u think the only way is to avoid being in places alone? that means, always stay in places where there is other people?
can u guys suggest me a non-physical gift to give her? like a love letter? cuz as i said, im very far away from her..

[sine24]

Im suppose to be the same as u but im not really that strong in religious faith. Its just i think our love will be more precious n meaningful.

You're supposed to be? don't you know your own beliefs? It sounds to me like your just going with what other people are telling you and not thinking for yourself. Know what you believe in and what you want before you confuse the hell out of yourself and others.

[PussyCatDoll]

dude, i take it your at uni?

i don't think LDR's work too good anyway..and especially at uni. there's so many otherfish for you to try.

i think it maybe time for you to see new people.

[luvispower]

no.. im bonded to her.. u should understand if u tried it before.. i don't even have a peep at other girls. LDRs are hard, but it worths if u really love each other.
by the way, when u just said LDR i thought it was light dependant resistor. Im doing electrical & electronice engineering. lol.

[PussyCatDoll]

no.. im bonded to her.. u should understand if u tried it before.. i don't even have a peep at other girls. LDRs are hard, but it worths if u really love each other.
by the way, when u just said LDR i thought it was light dependant resistor. Im doing electrical & electronice engineering. lol.

i do understand and more than you think. if my parents knew that i see my bf everyday, that he's kissed me, that we've had a relationship that was more than just friends for over 2 years, they would take me out of uni and make me quit work. but he is everything in the world to me. he's worth taking the risk for. you seem to be giving and giving and not getting nothing back.

btw, i don't have it bad. there are some girls here who have it a hellov a lot worse.

[Illusional]

imo.. life is too short to wait.

raverboy

[Kromat]

It seems to me like society is telling us that
we need to have sex to be whole as a person
or make lots of money to make someone love us.

Why can't it be the activities that we share
together that makes us love each other and
to get married, because you know that the
person you are going to live with for the rest of
your life, will respect and adore you in any situation.

P.S. I want a good supporting job, so I won't
have to worry about how much money I make.
If she's only there for me depending on how
much I make, then that isn't the person for me.

Having me around for just sex is also meaningful
to me and really wouldn't cheer me up, If we
can't have other interests that doesn't require
the bedroom.

[Illusional]

ahh the young dreamer... i used to be like that before, and then i got hit with reality.

raverboy

[AnotherPoster]

I couldn't do it. I need to try before I buy.

I concur.

If your partner said she wants to have it after marriage, can u really wait?

No, as that would mean no sex for me - I don't intend on getting married (rather, cohabiting). However, if my partner wanted to put sex on hold, I would wait, as long as is necessary without sacrificing my own sexual needs.


Whoever was going on a Christian spree needs a mild reminder.
Some biblical imagery is of a highly obscene nature, and abstinence isn't always promoted. I'm sure Jesus f u c k ed (this is a perfectly legitimate word which shouldn't be censored) a few hookers back in his prime. He was surrounded by them, after all. Hookers, criminals, you name it. We're all people, and people love to f u c k.
People, dolphins (many of which also happen to appreciate long foreplay), and some other mammals like to engage in nonreproductive sex. It's the way we are wired. That's not to say we can't make things special or respect our partners.

Love does not equal sex,like the world wants you to think. I have known several Christian couples who have centered their relationship around God and not around sex.

The world wants you to think that sex isn't special, not that love equals sex. May God save us from religion and religious statements of this nature. I do, however, agree with the sentiment of your post, namely that we should respect our loved ones and that it's alright to wait.

[frecklesinourIs]

Honestly.. I think that it is very hard to wait. If you truely love her, then I think that you can, or at least would wait. But at the same time, you dont want the motivation to get married to be sex, you want it to be love. That is why I have never considered waiting until marriage, I want the person to love me through and through and I dont want them to be blinded by their need for sex. I know people who have waited and those who havent, I dont think it makes a difference.

[GodsRose]

Thanks Mishanya!

[GodsRose]

Your welcome LuvisPower,I'm glad that verse helped you.Pray about what God is trying to reveal to you through this time.If your girlfriend is spending 6 hours studying,be patient with her and be open to the things that the Lord wants to teach you.Asking your girlfriend to spend 2 hours on the phone may be too much for her,because she is studying soo hard.Maybe God is trying to get your attention?Maybe God wants you to spend more time with Him.Your girlfriends education is important and I would imagine that she has been patient with you. Keep praying and seeking God and take this time to do something fun with the guys likes hiking or whatever it is that you enojoydoing.Long distance relationships are never easy to keep.You just have to take whatever time that you do have with your girlfriend and count your blessings that God would even give you 2 time to talk on the phone.Maybe God wants you to focus on your personal relationship with Him.I doubt that your girlfriend loves studying more than you.Do you even know how much time it takes to study?What's going on in your life at this time?Are you in college?Do you have a job?Don't you have goals for your life?You can't expect your girlfriend to fill your life with full contentment,because only God can make you content.Have you ever thought about moving closer to where your girlfriend lives?There are things that you can do.But don't choose to argue all of the time,because thats just being selfish and not sensitive to her needs. Think about where she is coming from.College is not easy for everyone and who knows if shes struggling with the classes that shes taking?Have you tried to pray with her?Is Christ the center of your relationship with her?When it comes to being in a relationship,there are always sacrifices to make and sometimes you have to put the other pesons needs before your personal needs.Relationships are about giving and taking.Think about it.Pray about it.Seek God and he will guide you and comfort you.Sincerely,Rose

thanks for the passage.. it really helped me to control myself a bit.although im a christian but not a really holy one..
but now the problem is not that anymore..
does your partner rather spend 6 hours per day to study (mind you she is studying accounting n i am taking engineering) n wont even spend 2 hours to chat with u? by the way we r in a long distance relationship.. we quarreled hundred of times bcuz of that..I really gif up..I dont want a gf who loves "study" more than me T.T

[GodsRose]

luvispower,
Prayer helps and no I don't think avoiding being alone is the only thing,but it does help.Being in prayer can change everything.Being held accountable by a brother in Christ helps.If your in the word,God's Word can help you and give you the strength to control yourself.You have to want to be pure and holy and be open to the Holy Spirit,so I'm glad that you have the determination.God wants you to have a willing heart and it sounds like you have a willing heart.Also,are you involved in ministry at your church?I know that being involved in ministry helps.Something that you could get her is Build a Bear.I don't know if you have a store out there,but a Build a Bear is a shopping store that you go in and you build a bear and then you have your voice inserted,so that when your girlfriend presses the paw of the bear it can say "I love you" with your voice.One of my friends got one from her boyfriend and she absolutely loves it!Just a thought.Hope your doing great!

Gods rose, i have the determination to wait. but sometimes i really just cant control, what can i do? do u think the only way is to avoid being in places alone? that means, always stay in places where there is other people?
can u guys suggest me a non-physical gift to give her? like a love letter? cuz as i said, im very far away from her..