ayy this probably should be in heartbreak forum but wtf...

[mistamontiel]

The love of my life...we've never done anything together. Nothing but talk...but you don't understand, she gave me self esteem. No other girl has acknowledged my existence the way she did...

I believe that love comes from the heart, and not the groin...there are so many desperados here in Miami I'm so sick of it, everybody is trying to get in everybody's pants just to say 'I love you' after. Which is bullshit.

It's a disgrace in my opinion...girls continue to disrespect themselves. When a girl wants her dick n money and gets it, she will leave all her friends in the dust.

I just want to hear from you gals...I know you're not all the same we're all unique and hopefully someday all equal but two questions please:

1. Does love revolve around 'good' sex?
2. If you had a really great friend who you could always talk to about absolutely anything...and you see him struggling with pot addiction...lack of life...would you talk to him and let him know you're still there or let him deal with it and never let him in your arms again??

Sorry...I'm so immature..all I ever wanted was to help everybody but unfortunately all I have to offer is my company. It just wasn't good enough...ohhh the agony

Thanks so much for reading, ask me anything, internet. :\

[Pears]

Love does not revolve around good sex.

If I had a good friend that is struggling with a problem, I would try to help.

What happened with the love of your life?

[mistamontiel]

Y'know...we're the same age. But then I freaked out, and she wouldn't realize why. When she started that stupid myspacing shit, finding guys, old ass viejos...

Now I'm the little git that don't know shit. Agh...she was so independent, didn't need anybody. It's so ironic we used to talk about a lot of funny shit and serious shit about people what they really want and it turns out everybody just wants sex

She doesn't remember me at all...I'm sick of being so sensitive but it's just one of those gals where you can just lay your head on her shoulder and just release yourself...she made me so happy I couldn't help but cry. Just a simple I love you...I learn love can bloom in a friendship. But all she found was bad guys who were jealous of how long I knew her. Told her I was the desperado, that I wanted to get in her pants. There's no way for me to reach her anymore, I have to go through her mom who's starting to hate me for what she hears as well.

[mistamontiel]

Another question...

Girls growing up...they start to love the attention from guys...you know flirting being called "hot" all the time when they were the most innocent BEAUTIFUL girl, NOT HOT.

True sometimes that's irrisistable? I mean when it just starts happening? That you wanna "experience"...

And when you get that experience...why get rid of all your friends? Because they tell you not to have sex?

It's like parents...you tell them you 'hate' them because you're grounded, but all they're doing is trying to help...they love you. What more can you ask for?

Dick and money? I'm so sick of this I should've died a long time ago

I have none of that so I guess I'm the bad friend...

[Pears]

I'm not sure about the area you live in. I've never met anyone who actually would leave friends after getting sex.

You really don't need that particular girl. You can take care of yourself. There are also plenty of good girls that are confident and independent who can make you feel on top of the world. Just keep looking. They are around.

[mistamontiel]

I sure hope so...thanks for being one of them...appreciate that sweetie at least someone cares about me...ha

What are your problems like? Maybe we can relate I don't know...send me a private message if anything I'm off to sleep this shit off a lil

g'nite

[jinx343]

The love of my life...we've never done anything together. Nothing but talk...but you don't understand, she gave me self esteem. No other girl has acknowledged my existence the way she did...

I believe that love comes from the heart, and not the groin...there are so many desperados here in Miami I'm so sick of it, everybody is trying to get in everybody's pants just to say 'I love you' after. Which is bullshit.

It's a disgrace in my opinion...girls continue to disrespect themselves. When a girl wants her dick n money and gets it, she will leave all her friends in the dust.

I just want to hear from you gals...I know you're not all the same we're all unique and hopefully someday all equal but two questions please:

1. Does love revolve around 'good' sex?
2. If you had a really great friend who you could always talk to about absolutely anything...and you see him struggling with pot addiction...lack of life...would you talk to him and let him know you're still there or let him deal with it and never let him in your arms again??

Sorry...I'm so immature..all I ever wanted was to help everybody but unfortunately all I have to offer is my company. It just wasn't good enough...ohhh the agony

Thanks so much for reading, ask me anything, internet. :

hello there.. im quite pleased to know that a guy like you still exists in this world. which means there is still hope for me (lol just kidding).

yeah i totally understand your perspective. coz i am also one of those "rare and almost extinct species" (lol) left in this planet.

to be honest, i'm so sick of meeting people who only wants to talk about sex.. sex.. sex.. you dont even know each other and you want to talk about sex? what r they thinking?!?!?!

**"I believe that love comes from the heart, and not the groin"--- i believe that, too. love is from the heart, lust and greed comes from the groin. if one is just simply using the groin to get what she wants, it's definitely a greed for control and power.

though im not surprised that girls who behave like that really exists and it has become a common occurrence nowadays, i still don't think it's morally acceptable. it's totally a moral degradation of one's self. you just end up losing your self respect after that.

1.Does love revolve around 'good' sex?
-DEFINITELY NOT! though "good sex" is naturally a part of the relationship, it's not a major part. in my opinion, love revolves around care, concern, trust, respect and understanding for the other person. it's how you want to see your partner being content, satisfied, fulfilled, confident and happy with himself.

2. If you had a really great friend who you could always talk to about absolutely anything...and you see him struggling with pot addiction...lack of life...would you talk to him and let him know you're still there or let him deal with it and never let him in your arms again??
-i've been in this situation before and i did not leave my friend. i couldn't just stand and watch the person i care about ruin his life. if someone has to talk sense out of him, it must be me coz i care about him. even if he might have ended totally ruining his life (coz that's just how he simply wanted it), you know that at least you did all the best you could do to get him out of it.

i totally disagree that you're immature. immature people dont care about other people. they just care about themselves. they're selfish beings. but i do believe people who are having problems are having those coz they are feeling alone. they are in need of company of someone who would help them get through it. someone who will tell them they are not alone in this world. though we couldn't possibly help "everybody", as long as we continue to show our concern for them regularly, i'ts more than good enough.:

[jinx343]

Y'know...we're the same age. But then I freaked out, and she wouldn't realize why. When she started that stupid myspacing shit, finding guys, old ass viejos...

Now I'm the little git that don't know shit. Agh...she was so independent, didn't need anybody. It's so ironic we used to talk about a lot of funny shit and serious shit about people what they really want and it turns out everybody just wants sex

She doesn't remember me at all...I'm sick of being so sensitive but it's just one of those gals where you can just lay your head on her shoulder and just release yourself...she made me so happy I couldn't help but cry. Just a simple I love you...I learn love can bloom in a friendship. But all she found was bad guys who were jealous of how long I knew her. Told her I was the desperado, that I wanted to get in her pants. There's no way for me to reach her anymore, I have to go through her mom who's starting to hate me for what she hears as well.

though i understand your feelings and concerns for her, it's time you realize people change... no matter how much you want to hold them back for how they used to be.. you can't. trust me, i'm experienced on that (lol)

obviously, she wants to venture out and i think she's looking for something or someone who would fulfill her wants and needs which she only knows what. but she wouldn't know what she really wants until she has experienced the good and bad of this world.

just constantly tell her of your concerns.. you know no matter what you will say, she has her own mind and she will still follow what she wants. but as they say, experience is a hard teacher, it gives you the test first, the lesson afterwards.

you said she's independent. dont be too clingy, demanding or sound controlling on her.. just voice out your concerns in a way that wouldn't sound as whining. coz she will definitely put more space in between you if you would continue to from my experience again lol.

come on now.. face it.. sorry but she wants to do her own thing. so you should learn to accept that everything has changed.

[PussyCatDoll]

i've been with my bf for almost 3 years.

no sex. no dick. no money.

we talk and have made out only a handful of times.

[jinx343]

Another question...

Girls growing up...they start to love the attention from guys...you know flirting being called "hot" all the time when they were the most innocent BEAUTIFUL girl, NOT HOT.

True sometimes that's irrisistable? I mean when it just starts happening? That you wanna "experience"...

And when you get that experience...why get rid of all your friends? Because they tell you not to have sex?

It's like parents...you tell them you 'hate' them because you're grounded, but all they're doing is trying to help...they love you. What more can you ask for?

Dick and money? I'm so sick of this I should've died a long time ago

I have none of that so I guess I'm the bad friend...

yes.. and that's why they're called "girls" coz they are young and inexperienced. and as i said before, immature people only think about what makes them feel good. so basically, whatever attention they can get, the tend to feel good and they see it as something they really like without seeing the real reason or meaning behind it.

i think they "stay away" from the friends they used to have coz they see the concerns of their friends as somewhat persecuting when in fact they're not. they just want to do what they want. that's just it. for themselves. and it will have to take sometime for them to realize that what they did was not right.

you know, people usually do the things they are told not to do coz the more you tell them not to, the more they are tempted to do so coz it makes them feel good doing it. it's that "feeling good" thing. it's like an addiction. they take drugs coz they make you feel good.

dick and money? who said that's what friendship is all about? that's just sick. haha!

i wish i should've died too.. had my fill of it and im sooo sick of these people.

[jinx343]

I'm not sure about the area you live in. I've never met anyone who actually would leave friends after getting sex.

You really don't need that particular girl. You can take care of yourself. There are also plenty of good girls that are confident and independent who can make you feel on top of the world. Just keep looking. They are around.

Pears is definitely right.. you can stand by yourself. you don't need somebody to make you feel bad. it's those people who make us feel good and happy that we really need. not the ones who will just make us feel small or unworthy.

after all, we all came out of this world alone... and strong (even if you have a twin, you still came out separately). all we need are the people who truly care about us. we deserve people we care about who makes us happy as well. i've started to do that now.. not depending my happiness on other people and i've stopped wanting people who doesnt want me. we should all start loving and finding happiness deep within ourselves. after all, our selves doesn't leave us, right?

[mistamontiel]

i've been with my bf for almost 3 years.

no sex. no dick. no money.

we talk and have made out only a handful of times.

heyyy..i envy you. thanks for reading!! and stay mature...for your own sake lol

[mistamontiel]

aww thanks jinx. about that friend of yours...i'm sorry about your loss. i wish i was a loss...LOL

all the drugs the partying the bullshit...i could've quit and get on with my life anytime. but she was such a loss...i didnt give a damn about myself only her...and i guess that's immature for her

im out of my ****ing mind...i know what you're saying it's so hard to 'face it' or 'get over it' those phrases are so traumatizing for me. it's just all the effort i put...i cant let it go to waste. 3-4 years vanished...i have to find success...those assholes can't take MY friend away from me

sheesh...she is NOT the problem, it's her stupid boy/friends

but then again she IS the problem!! she is so blind she doesn't see past them!! they don't know me at all!! i had to deserve this somehow, but i'll redeem myself someday, trying to build up some hope...i can't let them walk all over me like this :\

[jinx343]

aww thanks jinx. about that friend of yours...i'm sorry about your loss. i wish i was a loss...LOL

all the drugs the partying the bullshit...i could've quit and get on with my life anytime. but she was such a loss...i didnt give a damn about myself only her...and i guess that's immature for her

im out of my ****ing mind...i know what you're saying it's so hard to 'face it' or 'get over it' those phrases are so traumatizing for me. it's just all the effort i put...i cant let it go to waste. 3-4 years vanished...i have to find success...those assholes can't take MY friend away from me

sheesh...she is NOT the problem, it's her stupid boy/friends

but then again she IS the problem!! she is so blind she doesn't see past them!! they don't know me at all!! i had to deserve this somehow, but i'll redeem myself someday, trying to build up some hope...i can't let them walk all over me like this :

mista.. you're welcome. but i didn't lose my friend i got him back to how he should be. i only said that it's not our fault if we lose someone just as longas we did our best to bring them back again. i jus didnt know it's you who is abusing and punishing yourself.

you said you dont give a damn about your self.. only her.. so tell me.. how could she give a damn about you if she sees your not giving yourself worth???? it's unattractive to girls to see guys who are not strong enough. it drives girls away...that's my honest opinion.

yes.. i know it's hard to "face it" and "get over it" but only for now.. trust me.. you cant imagine how many times i have said that i can't face life without my (jerk.. i only realized too late) ex bf... that i couldn't get over the fact that we wont be together forever.. but look at me now.. i'm up and about.. i've never felt this good after i got him out of my system.

im not just saying this coz i have to. im saying this coz i've been there done that. i tried to punish myself too from things which now i know was not even my fault coz i know i did everything. it's just good that i woke up from the illusion and didnt make matters worse for myself.

damn!why should i torture myself when the person who did this to me was out partying, hooking up with the girls and having the time of his life?!?!?! he didnt care, so why should i? i deserve someone better who will treat me right.

it was hard.. really hard. i thought i wud go crazy. not a day i wish id not wake up and go through the tormenting emotions again.

so what i'm saying is.. wake up. it's high time you pick yourself up. does she know you're doing tha because of her? and if she does know, what did she do? did she even try to comfort you? and if you will get your self worse, do you think if she sees you , she will be happy to be with you? it's like seeing a sickly or crazy dog on the street. would you go up to it and pat his head if he is in that state? i bet not. think a bit if it's worth it.


i know you love her that's why you couldnt even accuse her. but mista.. you said she gets into those sites and meet those assholes. you said it's not her fault. but come to think of it... SHE went into those sites. SHE accepted the invites to talk to those jerks.. so SHE definitely and clearly wanted those things to happen.

sorry. i know its hard for you to take what i'm saying but i dont care if you willl hate me after this.. i just want to give you my honest opinion. so please...... don't make her look guiltless and punish yourself for what she has done willingly for herself.

just think a bit.

in one part you're saving the girl. the next part you're actually admitting to the fact that it's her fault. THERE'S HOPE!!! hurray!!! so i think it wouldnt take long for you to realize what i just said.

you have to redeem yourself NOW! don't wait for someday. someday you might not be thinking right anymore. so better get up your ass and shout, "im the king of the world!!!!" lol just kidding.

but what i mean is.. try to see the bright side of life. those jerks are having fun while you go pulling yourself down and down. how do you expect to stand up if you will just let them trample you? so i say get up! you deserve happiness! we all do! MAKE HER SEE WHAT SHE JUST MISSED!

[misombra]

all i care about is sex and money.