Our worlds have been broken..

[overlooked]

hahaha...agree vash! *u're genius!* hehe...

[IndiReloaded]

Daybreaker, I believe thus far I am the only parent who has posted on your thread.

Now there's two of us.

[Daybreaker]

Are you really? No wonder her father doesn't want you around.

What's your problem, DB? Are you so self-absorbed that you can't see any humour in your situation?

If this is how you are around her parents, you most certainly need to apologize. Lighten up.

Am I really? Of course not, it was just a joke. Vashti has been disrespecting the situation this entire thread and I'm getting a bit tired of it.

What does being self-absorbed have to do with humour? It's not funny that she (basically) called me a whining boy who was in it for the sex. But that's for her to deny.

No I'm not like this around her parents. I try as hard as I can to please her parents. I've cooked for them on several occasions, I've helped around the house, I've helped her father especially organizing his bar (the man trusted me with gallons upon gallons of his wine/beer), I've done a lot for them and they treated me like a member of the family. Let's get something straight, I feel like they really liked me before this. And in this family, "really liked" means a lot.

I hope this post didn't seem rude to you.

[IndiReloaded]

What does being self-absorbed have to do with humour? It's not funny that she (basically) called me a whining boy who was in it for the sex. But that's for her to deny.

Perhaps I'm confused, but I thought Vash was responding to MY post about my father basically running my BFs through the grind years ago. Her comment about 'those in it for sex' was for those frightened off by his methods. I didn't interpret her comment as directed at you at all, so I'm not sure why you would.

Sure you aren't reading into things too much? Vash is quite a reasonable lady & I assure you she has no vested interest (or any for that matter) in your sex life or lack thereof. She's also spent a lot of time giving you (in my opinion) very reasonable advice & a look into what might be going on in your GF's parent's minds.

It may not be what you want to hear, but that doesn't make it any less true, or useful.

[vashti]

Actually, not too many ran off, lol. Which is why we got so much free yard work done. I think my dad knew a good thing when he saw it.

My husband is, naturally, extraordinarily handy around the house (HIS job was to help put in a fence around the pool!). So could be good old dad had a plan all along...

You know, all this thread reminds me of how much a girl appreciates being able to look back years later and know her guy was willing to jump through hoops for her. You are a lucky woman, indi.

Emoboy - the world doesn't revolve solely around you. I was actually speaking to indi in my last post, not you. You really need to learn how to lighten up. Your entire story is something you will laugh about in a couple of years. You shouldn't take yourself so seriously.

[Daybreaker]

You know, all this thread reminds me of how much a girl appreciates being able to look back years later and know her guy was willing to jump through hoops for her. You are a lucky woman, indi.

Emoboy - the world doesn't revolve solely around you. I was actually speaking to indi in my last post, not you. You really need to learn how to lighten up. Your entire story is something you will laugh about in a couple of years. You shouldn't take yourself so seriously.

I apologize..
I understand, and hopefully, I'll be laughing with her about it.

I just got word from her.. she has told me that her parents are mainly upset with her and not me. I don't understand, it goes slightly against this protection thing..
They told her "you ruined a great thing, your mother and I really liked him and we thought he was great for you until you did this.."
He mentioned to her mother how polite I was on the phone despite his temper.
I'm still a part of the equation, but I figured I would update the situation if anyone's still wondering..

[overlooked]

i agree. her parents would do the same thing to OTHER guys as well anyway. dont take it personally, DB.

[Lipp]

Overlooking the back-and-forth of the last few pages, while this might not apply to your case I think the best display of being a mature and trustworthy boyfriend would be to sit down and talk things out with the parents, and go from there.
Sure, it won't be easy, but perhaps you can reach a compromise, such as that the two of you can see each other but the parents want to be sure that you wont be intimate quite yet.

Without confronting the parents you'll probably end up having to meet her outside of her home, which denies possibilities of getting it to work between you and her parents in the future.

Oh well, my 2 cents. Take it or leave it.

[Daybreaker]

Overlooking the back-and-forth of the last few pages, while this might not apply to your case I think the best display of being a mature and trustworthy boyfriend would be to sit down and talk things out with the parents, and go from there.
Sure, it won't be easy, but perhaps you can reach a compromise, such as that the two of you can see each other but the parents want to be sure that you wont be intimate quite yet.

Without confronting the parents you'll probably end up having to meet her outside of her home, which denies possibilities of getting it to work between you and her parents in the future.

Oh well, my 2 cents. Take it or leave it.

It makes sense but I feel that I need to ease into that plan. I feel like I should first write her parents a letter showing my deepest, deepest apologies for getting carried away and disrespecting their daughter, their home, and their trust. It would also say that everything I need to say couldn't possibly be expressed in just a letter, and in that, I would ask them to meet to talk about it.

[IndiReloaded]

No offense, but if I got a letter like that from my child's BF I would think they are an over the top drama queen. And I would think they didn't have the guts to actually face me in person.

Just talk to them. In a relaxed but sincere way. Its what adults do. Learn to balance the response to the actual offense. What you did was dumb & disrespectful but its not the end of the world. And you DO care sincerely for their daughter so just let them know that.

[Cain]

This whole time, I've tried to imagine walking into my girlfriend's room while her parents were awake and trying to have sex. I just can't picture myself taking that risk. You've got more balls than I do... I'll say that.

As was mentioned, don't write a letter. After another few days, just talk to them face to face about it. Just be prepared if they aren't ready to accept it yet.

[Daybreaker]

No offense, but if I got a letter like that from my child's BF I would think they are an over the top drama queen. And I would think they didn't have the guts to actually face me in person.

Just talk to them. In a relaxed but sincere way. Its what adults do. Learn to balance the response to the actual offense. What you did was dumb & disrespectful but its not the end of the world. And you DO care sincerely for their daughter so just let them know that.

I figured that a letter would be easier to introduce the idea. Keep in mind that I was told to stay away from his daughter. Just waltzing into their house is the last thing they want. They don't even support communication between her and I. What makes you think I can just see them face to face? Appearing at their house would be foolish, because it's the place I'd disrespected. I know that the ideal, mature adult would say "let's give him a chance until he screws up." But like mentioned before, what's telling them right now that I deserve a chance? They're furious with both their daughter and me. More with their daughter.

This whole time, I've tried to imagine walking into my girlfriend's room while her parents were awake and trying to have sex. I just can't picture myself taking that risk. You've got more balls than I do... I'll say that.

As was mentioned, don't write a letter. After another few days, just talk to them face to face about it. Just be prepared if they aren't ready to accept it yet.

Well, her parents were long sleeping, if that makes my balls seem any smaller. It was around 1am.
Aye.. I see. The thing is they're going on vacation in nearly two weeks. So I figured it would give them time to think about it, or not think about it. Whichever helps most. I just thought a letter would be a decent tool for introducing the idea of meeting.

[Cain]

I figured that a letter would be easier to introduce the idea. Keep in mind that I was told to stay away from his daughter. Just waltzing into their house is the last thing they want. They don't even support communication between her and I. What makes you think I can just see them face to face? Appearing at their house would be foolish, because it's the place I'd disrespected. I know that the ideal, mature adult would say "let's give him a chance until he screws up." But like mentioned before, what's telling them right now that I deserve a chance? They're furious with both their daughter and me. More with their daughter.




Well, her parents were long sleeping, if that makes my balls seem any smaller. It was around 1am.
Aye.. I see. The thing is they're going on vacation in nearly two weeks. So I figured it would give them time to think about it, or not think about it. Whichever helps most. I just thought a letter would be a decent tool for introducing the idea of meeting.

In my opinion, wait until after their vacation and just meet them face to face. If I was the father, I'd rather a face to face meeting. I'd most likely throw a letter away without reading it.

[Daybreaker]

In my opinion, wait until after their vacation and just meet them face to face. If I was the father, I'd rather a face to face meeting. I'd most likely throw a letter away without reading it.

Okay but I ask that you read what I'd said earlier my previous post.
Are you saying I should show up at their house randomly and ask to talk?

I don't have a problem with that but I'm not sure how willing they are to do that.

Their vacation is also 4 weeks long.

[Cain]

In my opinion, you need to give them less of a chance to be able to tell you to piss off. A letter or having your girlfriend relay the message is an easy way for them to tell you to piss off.