Our worlds have been broken..

[Daybreaker]

In my opinion, you need to give them less of a chance to be able to tell you to piss off. A letter or having your girlfriend relay the message is an easy way for them to tell you to piss off.

I see, I completely agree.. that's the problem I'm having now.
I'm not sure what the best way is. Calling them and asking to speak to her father would take a bit of balls, so maybe that would be a decent way to start it out? I just don't see myself being welcomed at all to just start talking to them.

As I mentioned about the medication I had to pick up, they left it in their mailbox. Probably because they didn't want to see me. So I think I should give them some time to cool down first..

How do you react to this 4-week vacation though? Is it too long?

*EDIT*:
I'd also like vashti's input on the situation, seeing as she's a parent.
Which method of trying to contact you would piss you off the least?
The situation is this:
-I need to speak with you and your spouse.
-I am wanting to apologize and not necessarily begin discussing future compromises.
-I am wanting to express to you that I'd do ANYTHING to stay with your daughter, even with minimal contact.
-I love your daughter more than anything and I would treat her better than anyone on this planet, as she deserves.
-It won't happen again, and our intimacy will certainly be greatly limited.

[vashti]

I wouldn't do the letter. You need a face-to-face, probably with her dad, and I suggest you wait until after their vacation to do it to give him a chance to cool down. I would probably just show up at their door at an hour when they aren't likely to be eating a meal or watching their favorite program, etc... At that point, apologize sincerely for breaking their trust, and admit what you did was really dumb and that you got carried away in the moment. Ask him what you can do to rebuild their trust, and make sure he knows that you really care for their daughter and will do what is necessary to make things right. If necessary, offer to see their daughter only when they are present until trust can be re-established. Do not show the slightest bit of attitude. You should go completely belly up. If they allow you to see her, they will probably make it conditional. Agree to the conditions because the terms can be re-negotiated when you are back in good standing. If they allow you to see her again, don't make the mistake of making yourself too comfortable again. You always need to be a little bit on guard, and always behave your absolute best when you are in their home, because they will be wondering how well you will behave outside their house if you can't even behave inside it.

[Daybreaker]

I wouldn't do the letter. You need a face-to-face, probably with her dad, and I suggest you wait until after their vacation to do it to give him a chance to cool down. I would probably just show up at their door at an hour when they aren't likely to be eating a meal or watching their favorite program, etc... At that point, apologize sincerely for breaking their trust, and admit what you did was really dumb and that you got carried away in the moment. Ask him what you can do to rebuild their trust, and make sure he knows that you really care for their daughter and will do what is necessary to make things right. If necessary, offer to see their daughter only when they are present until trust can be re-established. Do not show the slightest bit of attitude. You should go completely belly up. If they allow you to see her, they will probably make it conditional. Agree to the conditions because the terms can be re-negotiated when you are back in good standing. If they allow you to see her again, don't make the mistake of making yourself too comfortable again. You always need to be a little bit on guard, and always behave your absolute best when you are in their home, because they will be wondering how well you will behave outside their house if you can't even behave inside it.

Thank you for the advice.
I'd like to be confident when I say all of this,
but I also don't want to seem too stalwart and smug.
I want to just go all out and do all that I can do to convince him of my apology and how I feel about his daughter..
I was planning on doing all that you said, and now I think that's what I'll do. I would agree to any conditions, even if it involved a regular daily beating.

However, it's incredibly difficult to think of doing that after hearing "stay away from my daughter".. I know this was probably a heated, rash thing to say, as that was the zenith of his temper.

Also, I know that her and my feelings will remain the same for the duration of their vacation, however is four weeks too much? Or is it just enough time to let them cool down?

Thank you very much.

[Cain]

You're a man. Don't you say things you don't mean in the heat of the moment? He had just caught you trying to sex his daughter up. He was pissed. I'm sure he told his wife that he wanted to cut your balls off and feed them to you. Doesn't mean he's going to. He was saying things he didn't mean because he was mad. By the time the vacation rolls around he should be cooled off enough to approach him about this.

[Gribble]

Hey, I like this guy. He's young and he doesn't write like a complete ****wit. It's refreshing. I'd let him date my daughter. So long as I was present to chaperone. And he was chemically neutered.

[Cain]

Hey, I like this guy. He's young and he doesn't write like a complete ****wit. It's refreshing. I'd let him date my daughter. So long as I was present to chaperone. And he was chemically neutered.

Ugh. I'm just imagining that if I have a daughter, she's going to be attracted to those stupid little wigger kids and I'm going to have to shoot them.

[IndiReloaded]

I know I'll probably be sorry for asking but what is a 'wigger'?

[Mish]

I know I'll probably be sorry for asking but what is a 'wigger'?

White guy pretending to be black.

Eminem and Vanilla Ice come to mind.

[IndiReloaded]

Thanks Mish. That was a new one. Eminem, lol.