This e-mail has been going around the office and I just thought I should share.
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I didn't think much of it, because most guys who have experience with relationships and the opposite sex quickly dismiss such women as soon as they start to notice such behavior. What really bothered me was when I asked some co-workers around the office about the e-mail. It's was almost sad and disgusting to listen to some of the things they had to say.
"This is stuff my mom taught me when I was like 14."
"You usually learn as you go, and others girls help out."
"There's nothing wrong with it, guys manipulate women all the time so we need to maintain control over guys somehow or else they'll go crazy and stop respecting you or treating you right."
The first thing I was thinking was that I don't really know any guys who manipulate women. Maybe I just don't really manipulate women so that's why I feel that way. I have heard of guys being abusive and lying, but every time I hear stories like that I find them absolutely crazy. I can't imagine ever hitting a woman or being abusive. It's totally disrespectful. I know I'm not the only guy who feels this way. Most men would never do this with a woman they love and respect. And that's why reading that upset me so much.
From everyone I've been talking to, it just seems that women don't seem to see anything wrong with this. They all seem to find ways to justify it. Respect and love go out the window. It's as if they see every guy as some manipulative jerk. Or maybe they just expect the guy to compromise and exploit the love and respect he has towards her to get whatever she wants out of him. Maybe it's just the women in my office. They do all work in lower income positions and not to sound racist, but are mostly minorities or white trailer trash.
I'm dating someone now, and I am in love. I love my girlfriend to death. Anything I do, I do it because I want to do it. I want to treat her like my queen. She's honest, classy, ladylike, genuine, and hardworking. She's such a strong and mature woman, and I feel she has the same level of love and respect towards me. I feel she's worthy of having everything I have to offer to her. I do respect her and feel she's an outstanding woman. When she's upset, I'm upset. If she needs something, I want to get it for her or do it for her. And because we love each other so much, yes, we want to have sex together. I just think all of this stuff is natural. Not just for me, but for any normal guy. I would hate to imagine that she disrespects all the love and respect I have for her, and takes advantage of me or manipulates me to just get what she wants.
I posted this in the "Ask a Female" section, but guys can feel free to leave their input too. Maybe my office just has a bad sample of women. I'm open to that possibility. I guess I have a couple of questions.
* Do all women feel that there is nothing wrong or disrespectful about this?
* Do all women think of all men as manipulative jerks?
* How exactly do women believe men take advantage of or manipulate them?
* Is this advice you give or get from/to your girlfriends or from your parents?
* Do you feel that any manipulation between a couple is ever justified?
* If you are with someone you truly love and respect, how can you not feel the least bit guilty about even thinking about taking advantage of them or manipulating them?
* If anyone from any gender takes advantage of or manipulates their partner, what does it say about that person?
Thanks!