haha

[Cain]

Why doesn't she like you to watch porn?

She just doesn't like porn. It bothers her. And because it bothers her, I don't do it. It's not some huge thing.

[misombra]

it's indicative of insecurity.

[Cain]

it's indicative of insecurity.

She doesn't like porn because she thinks it's degrading. Plus, her dad ended up being into porn on the internet and it led to him writing little love letters to other women.

[anachronistic]

You can't watch porn but she can have a dildo? That doesn't seem fair to me.

[misombra]

that's pretty naive cain.

porn does not make you write letters to other women. it was probably in his nature anyway. in fact, his interest in other women probably led to his porn, and not the other way around.

[Cain]

You can't watch porn but she can have a dildo? That doesn't seem fair to me.

I can go buy a rubber vagina if I want?

I don't understand the big deal... it's not like it matters. It's not like she forbids me to look at porn. I know that she doesn't like it and because of that I don't do it.

[misombra]

it does matter to you.

it's the only way you can have a good masturbation session.

[Cain]

it does matter to you.

it's the only way you can have a good masturbation session.

I don't need it. I get plenty of sex from her.

[misombra]

so you haven't masturbated in over a year?

[Cain]

so you haven't masturbated in over a year?

I didn't say that. I said that she never forbid me to do it, eventually I just decided that I would stop. I looked at it as a test... how can I say I'd never stray and cheat if I couldn't stop looking at porn? So I stopped.

[misombra]

slippery slope logic, that is.

[Cain]

slippery slope logic, that is.

Ok? How is that? It's a test to myself. Once again, she didn't forbid it.

[misombra]

your thinking, and her thinking too apparently, is that porn leads to cheating, or is in some way related to cheating.

[Cain]

your thinking, and her thinking too apparently, is that porn leads to cheating, or is in some way related to cheating.

No, it's not that at all.

I only stopped because porn satisfies a carnal urge. All I am doing is testing myself, showing that I can control my carnal urges. That's it.

[anachronistic]

I didn't say that. I said that she never forbid me to do it, eventually I just decided that I would stop. I looked at it as a test... how can I say I'd never stray and cheat if I couldn't stop looking at porn? So I stopped.

Well, as you said yourself, porn is no comparison to cheating.

I think if you need to test yourself... how stable are you really?

You should be honest with her... but she should be okay with you watching porn. Especially if she is allowed to put a (toy) penis inside of herself. Tell me, what are your motives behind 'making' a dildo for her? I think I know; you want it to be like yours becauese you don't want her to imagine what another guy's cock would feel like... in that sort of reason, maybe not to that extent? Am I in the ballpark with that one?

Which is worse? Using porn to get yourself off, or buying a rubber vagina, and using your imagination? I think #2 is more likely to tempt you to cheat, and probably even more disturbing, and the same can be said about a dildo, no?

I think porn is just as degrading as sex toys.... not degrading at all. Then again, these things are only as bas as the person who 'uses' them... or in other words, a porn addict like myself should try to control their addiction.

This isn't the case for you; you say you are not an addict... but are you really? If you absolutely need porn to get you off... or not even if you need it... just having the mindset is indicative of being a porn addict.

Maybe there's something your not telling us... or yourself? I dunno. But I can tell there are little conflicts like that which bother you, even if it's just a teency weency bit.