How to have fun with a visual man

[sara_qt]

My beau is very visual and I get great reactions when I wear something sexy.
At the same time he checks out other girls if they are attractive and show their body.
I don’t mind this – sometimes we even talk about how hot some girl looks.

His reaction to sexy women turns me on and I am thinking of turning up the heat.
I dress sexy but my outfits would be still considered normal.

A few weeks ago we saw a girl that had her blouse unbuttoned to her belly and showed her breast whenever she moved, a couple of times her shirt came off completely for few seconds. He was clearly captivated and aroused - I was turned on too.

I was thinking of giving him a similar tease next time we go out –
any thoughts / ideas?

[damn2008]

Sounds like you're almost competing with these other women to keep your guy's attention.

Does it all make you feel unappreciated and disrespected that he does this? Correct me if I'm wrong but I think you just like to roll with it for one reason or another for him instead of voicing your own feelings.

Either that or you're the perfect woman.

[shh!]

Perhaps if you are out in a nightclub, showing the world your boobs may be acceptable. The rest of the time, it just makes you look cheap, slutty, and desperate for attention. Does it make men aroused? Of course... but so does a cool breeze on a warm day.

But I guess youknow your man best... if he needs this, then you will have to decide if you will be the one to provide it. Most men wouldn't want other guys to see their women this way, but I suppose there are exceptions.

[Cain]

Perhaps if you are out in a nightclub, showing the world your boobs may be acceptable. The rest of the time, it just makes you look cheap, slutty, and desperate for attention. Does it make men aroused? Of course... but so does a cool breeze on a warm day.

But I guess youknow your man best... if he needs this, then you will have to decide if you will be the one to provide it.

If I see a woman dressed so scantily that she's barely covered, 'slut' is the first word that comes to mind.

[Dasein]

Sara it is good that you are comfortable in your own skin not to get jealous of his wandering eye.

Why don't you wear some suspenders under a knee length skirt to a movie? It can cover you up in public but then you could give him a flash during the movie??

How about strappy heels or knee high boots (depending on the weather where you are).

There are plenty of slightly naughty suggestive things you could do which don't scream ho.

[Illusional]

hell yeah you should tease him... i wish more women were like this.

raverboy

[misombra]

i could never be with a "visual man."

[sara_qt]

To clarify: I am thinking of wearing something special to a club or bar not on the street.

Dasein: I should have been clearer, part of my turn-on is that others can see me too – secretly showing off in a movie theater turn me on

I want that guys like him – can’t keep their eyes off me
At the same time I want a high from doing something daring.

[Charlie Boy II]

If I see a woman dressed so scantily that she's barely covered, 'slut' is the first word that comes to mind.

you know Cain, you sound like a really fun guy.

[Dasein]

Misombra - ALL men are visual

Sara - I get what you mean. You like other men looking at you and feeling sexy and attractive, whilst also turning your man on.

If you are in a club the sky is the limit. Just depends on taste. If you have good legs- little skirts/tiny shorts with sky high heels. Gladiator strappy heels are very cool.

If you have boobs show cleavage.

A dress with a low scoop back is always very sexy but not too risqué.

Not knowing your taste it is a bit difficult.

Did you have anything in mind and we can give you a ya or nay?

[Only-virgins]

I'm not visual, I like fat ugly chicks.

[sara_qt]

Dasein: I have worn the usual sexy outfits. I am looking for something unusual and daring. At the same time I don’t want to look cheap and trashy.
What are classy outfits that drive men crazy?

[sara_qt]

since you (kind of) asked: I am slender – I think I have good legs, I am a runner.
My breasts are not very big but I think they have a nice shape

[miSSleepy]

There was a girl with her boobs popping out all over the place in public? Wtf?

And yes, men are visual, for the most part.

And why do people automatically assume this girl is trying to compete and is therefore insecure?

[misombra]

Misombra - ALL men are visual

yes but many men can control their eyes when their girlfriend is around.

i'm pretty lucky that in this past 5 years i've been with my bf, he has never told me about how hot another woman is. even if it's a lie, when i'm around i'm the most beautiful woman in the world.