Deadbeats

[Love Portion #9]

My son's father does not help me financially. I don't understand a man with no job, no place to live, or no education, no transportation can continue to get women to take care of him. Are some women just desperate to have any man? As long as there are women out there who will take care him, he will not be motivated to find and keep a job. Should I have a reason to be upset? He was my high school sweetheart and I had no clue he was going to turn out like this.

[Rob26]

If he's such a loser, why did you get involved with him to the extent of having a child?

[shh!]

This is avery good reason why people shouldn't marry their high school sweetheart. You never know for sure what you are going to get in the end because you are too young to read the clues.

[Love Portion #9]

If he's such a loser, why did you get involved with him to the extent of having a child?

I was young, naive, and stupid.

[Only-virgins]

I don't understand a man with no job, no place to live, or no education, no transportation can continue to get women to take care of him.

I was young, naive, and stupid.

Now you have your answer.

[Love Portion #9]

Yeah, i know. Now that I am wiser, I can not change or dwell on the pass but concentrate on my part and continue to provide a good environment for my son. It just makes me so damn mad when a father does take care of his responsibility. So many boys are being raise w/o a father. I was raise w/o a mother or father and I always use my childhood as an example for overcoming obstacles.

[bluesummer]

My ex husband was like this. He is always able to find women to support him. I don't know how, it's a talent I don't possess.

How is your son's father getting away with not helping you out? Does he not care about his son? Damn, I'd be in his face everyday.

[Love Portion #9]

He could never hold a job. He once told me that he did not like working hard at nothing. He is 40 years old and wants to start a career in Stand-up Comedy. He is a sad case.

[lesa]

Most of the things I would say have been stated already.

The other thing you can do is have the father be a constant part of the child's life in a non-financial way.

He should see his child often. He should babysit too.

[DoesntMatter]

This is not surprising in the least believe it or not. Your situation is really very common

[starbuck]

He sounds like my ex who had many "dreams," but was basically unemployable. Your child's father probably has realized that he can get by in life like this, like a charming stray, willing to go with whoever will take him in. I have first-hand experience with a guy like this. They don't change. They'll literally float from woman to woman until they find one who has low enough self esteem to settle with their lazy asses.

Isn't he required by law to pay some kind of child support? I thought that people could go to jail for this.

[Dasein]

He could never hold a job. He once told me that he did not like working hard at nothing. He is 40 years old and wants to start a career in Stand-up Comedy. He is a sad case.

It's not that he couldn't hold a job. It's that he didn't want a job.

[Love Portion #9]

Thank you all for your replies. I am not even receiving the proper 'non-financial' support. When he tells our 15 year old that he don't mind if he's having sex or women can not raise men to be men, how are these comments helping me or our son? If my son gets a STD or a baby, will he help with the medical bills or help financially with the baby? We all know the answer to that, no he will not. Though it is difficult being a single parent, I am happy that he is not around us. I rather be sick by myself than sick with a loser like that.

[lesa]

I hope that the reason my man cannot support our family emotionally and financially is because he is dead. I really hope that I choose the father of my children wisely. However, we never know. People change.