A little advice to help a shy guy...
It's been a while since I last visited this forum. I've been very busy with work and football. I've been reading the thread about 1aj being encouraged to talk to more girls. I really feel it's time I do the same. It's been almost 8 months since I had anything close to a relationship and I have been more than happy to remain single and focus on other things (friends, work, football etc) until I was ready to be in a relationship again. I feel the time has come that I at least "get out there" and meet new girls. Problem is, I'm shy and I don't have a lot of confidence when approaching girls.
Currently there are two girls I'd at least like to get to know better. The one, Lisa, is a blonde girl and she's cute and seems nice. She also plays in the same football tournament as I do. That means I see her every Wednesday evening. It seems that she comes with her dad. I've never seen her there with a boyfriend or anything, so I can only assume she's single. I've only ever said hello to her once when I asked if she also plays football here. She said yes and was very friendly. How can I approach her to start up a conversation? Something like "Hi, you played well that last game. Oh by the way, I'm Wally."? She's always around either her team or her dad which makes it a little difficult.
Then there's another girl I every Friday night when I go out to the club. She's a brunette and also damn cute. I've noticed her a lot and I've never seen her there with a guy. She has said hi to one or two guys who I assume are friends, but that's it. She's always there with another blonde girl and they always stick together. I've never seen her checking me, or anyone else, out. Maybe she just isn't looking for any guy in a club? She seems nice though... and fun. Always looks like she has a great time. While there, they do drink a little but not much and she doesn't smoke, which is great. I have no idea how to approach her. To her I might just be "just another drunk guy in a club", but I'm a nice guy and hardly drink at all.
Any ideas? Do I need to give more info?
Women marry men hoping they'd change.
Men marry women hoping they won't.
So each is decidedly disappointed.
- Albert Einstein