My GF won't give BJ's; but, she has a good reason for it...

[Aeradalia]

i think that he was trying to express that nice guys always finish last, and get used and abused by women. many times females create fake excuses for many situations in their lives, such as not wanting to go out, not wanting sex, not giving blow jobs, or not wanting to work. and then when a more masculine men come along they cheat with those men, completely neglecting their partners. communication-wise, females manipulate men into hearing what is actually on men's minds and then use it against them. example, honey, do you find that other girl attractive? please be honest with me. and then when the guy says yes, the next time he'd want sex she'll tell him to go **** that girl. once again, once women get married, it's a funeral for the man's penis in many cases, since they really won't have it often, or good.

I can't help but to wonder... is all this complication really necessary? Not to step on any toes... but sometimes I wonder if guys have it right --- keep it simple with fewer emotions. Try to see if the relationship has what you're looking for and if the right emotions are present.

Seems that everyone wants that one, that person who will accept them for who they are, love them in good and bad times, and someone worthy of their own affections... yet they feel the need to be petty and manipulate. What if the person you think means nothing to you, turns out to really be someone you want? And all this time you've been treating them poorly? What a sad, sad state to be in...

[lesa]

I can't help but to wonder... is all this complication really necessary? Not to step on any toes... but sometimes I wonder if guys have it right --- keep it simple with fewer emotions. Try to see if the relationship has what you're looking for and if the right emotions are present.

Seems that everyone wants that one, that person who will accept them for who they are, love them in good and bad times, and someone worthy of their own affections... yet they feel the need to be petty and manipulate. What if the person you think means nothing to you, turns out to really be someone you want? And all this time you've been treating them poorly? What a sad, sad state to be in...

I have a man's mind and a lady's body. I don't like being complicated. I'm very easy-going. Whenever I feel the emotions overtaking me, I shoot it back down. Just like a man . Right?

Why do women do that manipulative stuff like withholding sex to try to get a particular response, etc? I don't believe in that crapola.

If that's what DrLibido means then I agree, I suppose.

[carl1222]

I think the problem is that we have two very different types of people in this relationship:

A nice woman who is willing very hard to try to overcome her own very legitimate discomfort just to please the man she truly loves; and

A man who's willing to dump her just because she isn't giving him blow jobs soon enough.

Carl.

[Jonas]

You're not going to believe this.
Tonight, without asking for it or encouraging it, she went down on me, and let me come in her mouth.
I'm still in shock; frankly, I almsot can't sleep, I'm in such disbelief.
Even if it doesn't happen again for awhile, I am so thrilled, amazed, and ... Well, happy. She totally gave herself to me tonight.
Thank you again to everyone on this board that encouraged me to talk openly and thoughtfully to her about this. I guess, love really does conquer all.

[Aeradalia]

Is there anything that she has wanted that you may have felt somewhat uncomfortable about doing? I believe offering such a gesture would be a pleasant surprise for her and would make her feel all the more better for pleasing you.

As they say... one good turn deserves another...

[IndiReloaded]

You folks need to read that book I mentioned, The Female Brain.

Those of you who think you are male-oriented, but are female, are deluding yourselves. If you get a period, you are female-brained.

[Aeradalia]

You folks need to read that book I mentioned, The Female Brain.

Those of you who think you are male-oriented, but are female, are deluding yourselves. If you get a period, you are female-brained.

I made no claims of being male-oriented... but sincerely apologize if I misled anyone. No, my mindset is very feminine... and I am aware of that. However, I do feel that females can learn some things from males... and vice versa.

[vashti]

You folks need to read that book I mentioned, The Female Brain.

Those of you who think you are male-oriented, but are female, are deluding yourselves. If you get a period, you are female-brained.

It's been my observation that the sterotypical "female" way of thinking (fairytale romance, etc.) is actually more characteristic of very young females. Once adulthood/marriage sets in, women often become more practical, and males more interested in fairytale romance.

Of course, this could simply be a reflection on the types of people I associate with.

[IndiReloaded]

It's been my observation that the sterotypical "female" way of thinking (fairytale romance, etc.) is actually more characteristic of very young females.

That's not what is meant by "female brained". Its how data is processed by the brain.

[lesa]

I just had a 'female brain' moment last night. I was becoming a little emotional and irrational in the way my bf talked and handled a situation with me. At the same time, he didn't know what the problem was. Don't get me wrong, I do have this side but I also have the willpower to not let myself go overboard in it. I stopped myself and quickly tried to see things in his point of view. For some reason he felt my behavior was not matching what had actually happened. I took his perspective and I also gave him my perspective. In the end, I thought it would be better to be 'male brained' about the situation.

I have to say that it works for me. I still think emotionally but I allow the emotions to dissipate and use more logic. It's better than what I used to do. With my ex, I would have been completely emotional to him. He pissed me off and I quickly let him know without any holding back. Now, I think things through.

I still tell him my emotions....I just don't 'act' on them anymore, if that makes sense.

[misombra]

been married 3 times. but you have to understand my point of view as well. we all live in different countries, regions, cities. I am from Beverly Hills, and we have the scum of the earth gathered here.

are you in the porno industry?

[misombra]

I have a man's mind and a lady's body. I don't like being complicated. I'm very easy-going. Whenever I feel the emotions overtaking me, I shoot it back down. Just like a man . Right?

Why do women do that manipulative stuff like withholding sex to try to get a particular response, etc? I don't believe in that crapola.

If that's what DrLibido means then I agree, I suppose.

bullshit.
______

[misombra]

You're not going to believe this.
Tonight, without asking for it or encouraging it, she went down on me, and let me come in her mouth.
I'm still in shock; frankly, I almsot can't sleep, I'm in such disbelief.
Even if it doesn't happen again for awhile, I am so thrilled, amazed, and ... Well, happy. She totally gave herself to me tonight.
Thank you again to everyone on this board that encouraged me to talk openly and thoughtfully to her about this. I guess, love really does conquer all.

you're full of shit too.

[lesa]

Which part Misombra?

[misombra]

the whole thing.