Dazed and Confused Please Help

[shybelle]

I admit I am not the most experienced person when it comes to men. I have spent my entire life in school (college, 2 yrs lab, and then grad school). I was always the smart girl. I was cute, but bookish. Needless to say I did not date at all in high school and mainly hung with friends in college and grad school. Now I am out in the real world and I feel like a total fish out of water. Now I feel as if I am a decade behind everyone else.

I am definitely not trying to trap some one and have a houseful of kids anytime soon. In fact that may be part of the problem I am just interested in dating right now. That may be why I am attracted to younger guys there is less pressure. What should I do?
What should I do to gain confidence about guys in general? I do not know how to play the game at all. I frequently get hit on by younger guys. Should I just lie about my age all my friends say that I look younger than I am anyway. I am 31 (I know that’s kind of old to be having this problem). I have been told by male friends that I’m cute and have ‘a hot little body’ (that last comment was totally unsolicited by me). So I don’t think that men find me physically repulsive. I do know that y’all like what you like and everyone likes something different. I can be rather quiet until I know someone well though. I would really appreciate the male view point.

[Lite]

Show up naked, bring beer.

Could you word a coherent question that you would like answered in regards to men and dating?

[lesa]

Please don't lie about your age, that will cause unnecessary issues. You can decline to answer until a later time if the relationship gets to that point but don't lie. Give a range if you must lol. I think it would cool to know that you do not look your age. That's great.

As for getting guys, I don't know hehe. I am always approached (I have never asked out a guy before). I say just give it a try with one of them. Just give him your number when he asks and go from there.