I like someone 16 years my elder...

[vashti]

I thiink the whole your woman looking for a daddy figure is a bit of a cliche.There's no need to start trying to do some half arsed psycho analysis on what sounds like an honest attraction. Maybe she wants something different from the typical twenty something bloke struggling to abandon adolescence.

Wow, you sound defensive.

Anyway, it is no less cliche that a 20 year old girl is so much more mature than her male counterpart, all of whom apparently are struggling to abandon adolescence. In my experience, males and females mature in different ways, and not at all in consistent patterns. A female may indeed be more mature about some things, but much less mature about others.

[IndiReloaded]

Maybe she wants something different from the typical twenty something bloke struggling to abandon adolescence.

Do you believe this is the case based on her post tho? And an SN of "brainfreezie".

This is most likely an immature girl going to be had by an older, more experienced guy who is NOT going to be interested in pursuing a meaningful partnership. If he chases her, it will be b/c he wants some young ass.

Nothing wrong with that, agreed. BUT this gal is not mature enough to see it that way, I think. And that's the paradox w/these types of situations.

Folks here just want her to see what likely IS, not what she'd like it to be.

[sarah_rsl]

Do you believe this is the case based on her post tho? And an SN of "brainfreezie".

This is most likely an immature girl going to be had by an older, more experienced guy who is NOT going to be interested in pursuing a meaningful partnership. If he chases her, it will be b/c he wants some young ass.

Nothing wrong with that, agreed. BUT this gal is not mature enough to see it that way, I think. And that's the paradox w/these types of situations.

Folks here just want her to see what likely IS, not what she'd like it to be.

What's worse than your interpretation of the situation possibly being true is that you seem to rather maliciously wish it to be so.

Brainfreezie described an attraction she has to a man and a wish that it would develop into something more, we've all been there. Instead she's getting a load of pycho babble advice that looks like its sourced straight from day time TV.

There's an age difference, true but it isn't massive, if she's attracted to the guy she should have some faith in her instincts, exercise a little caution and pursue it. I wish her the best of luck.

[IndiReloaded]

Hate to break it to you, babe, but the only one making assumptions here is you.

I happen to believe that ppl are free-thinking entities that should come onto a site such as this and be exposed to all the available interpretations. It is strange that you should accuse anyone of 'wanting' any kind of outcome in this kind of thing. Besides it saying more about you (b/c you could never possibly know), such want would be irrelevant to the OP in any case. What will happen, will happen.

Unless you know this gal personally, you have no more info that makes your opinion any more or less valid.

I suspect, as Vash said, that you have some kind of personal experience that is digging at you in this matter. Perhaps you should think about why that might be in your own thread?

[vashti]

Clearly sarah believes she is the only person who has experienced an older man, and therefore her opinion is more valid than the rest of the world's.

[Car Chick]

I let the love of my life get away over fear of our age gap and now I'm so depressed I cry all the time and after five years of sobriety I want to drink desperatly. Take it from me hun, don't let him get away. You'll never forgive yourself.

[Lipp]

Hey, young women want mature men, older men want easy lays, it's a win-win situation!

...

Until its broken up (and yes, that is the rule rather than the exception) and the women feel like shit about anything related to sex.

[Aeradalia]

Clearly sarah believes she is the only person who has experienced an older man, and therefore her opinion is more valid than the rest of the world's.

I'm with someone 11 years older than me... and I still do not feel my experience makes my opinion anymore valid. If I were the OP, I would read many of the other posts pertaining to 'age gap' relationships, as well as many other posts that describe the typical struggles in any relationship. This will give you an idea as to what you may be getting yourself into... and offer suggestions of what to do or expect while you are in such a relationship.

The only advice that I can offer from my own 'age gap' experience is that it's a lot of work. You have to try to gain maturity through observation of others... but more so from a thorough understanding of yourself. Then you have to be open to any suggestions or opinions given to you by your s/o (or others who can offer unbiased objectivity)... and some of these suggestions may not be to your liking, but if you think about it... you begin to realize that it makes sense. However, your s/o cannot substitute the role of 'parent,' they don't know everything.... life gets to them too... and sooner or later, they will need someone to offer guidance, objective advice, and love. They will depend on you, just as you depend on them... and should gain strength from you just as you gain strength from them.

Essentially, being with someone older requires you to grow up...

[Ms.Cruise]

I don't bother much on the age gap. Coz all my ex's is older than me.
1st ex-bf- 13 years older than me, I'm 19 and he's 32
2nd ex-bf- 9 years older than me, I'm 23 and he's 32
And still I'm a matured woman and I found out that this guys on their early 30's and mid 30's,they still not that mature and they didn't still arrived on the point what they want in their life. Btw,My fiance is a lot older than me and were getting along very much. Compatible in a lot of things. AGE DOESNT MATTER IS JUST A NUMBER.
But knowing that your working at the same place, that would create a lot of drama and chaos in your life. Think about this, you and this guy turn to be gf and bf...you guys don't have any time for freedom....he sees you everyday, Come on,there's not gonna be like more fun for you guys. "ABSENCE MAKE THE HEARTS GO FONDER".
But follow your heart. Were only here to tell you some opinions.

Ms. Cruise