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    I feel like she's omitting some details.

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    If they're both being annoyed, it's a late night after a long concert (and assuming that they had drinks) and he didnt resort to anything that serious, well, I for one wouldn't consider it to be bad.

    And sure sounds like her side of the story, wouldn't surprise me if he was remaining patient for quite a while.

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    For instance, he knew they were making her sick...but she didn't want to tell him because he was enjoying the concert...how did he know if she didn't tell him?

    Even if she didn't verbalize it, there are ways to convey annoyance, disgust, discomfort, and impatience through body language.

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    If he has done it before there is a good chance he will do it again.

    Next time he will apologize and send you flowers. Later it will be more physical stuff and more gifts of apology.

    There is no reason for a man to touch you like that in the first place. It's in him to be physcial otherwise he would not have done that. Stop the swatting sex play because he is confused.

    And he did this because you felt ill?????

    And the relationship is only 5 months old (aka infatuation stage)?????
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    Quote Originally Posted by Frasbee View Post
    For instance, he knew they were making her sick...but she didn't want to tell him because he was enjoying the concert...how did he know if she didn't tell him?

    Even if she didn't verbalize it, there are ways to convey annoyance, disgust, discomfort, and impatience through body language.
    If he thinks she is a whiner, he should dump her - not handle her aggressively.
    Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?

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    wtf is "swatting" as in he spanked her on the ass? Like a kid? haha.
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    Whatever, she probably deserved it.

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    I wasn't sure what swatting was either lol.

    If this was a 40 year old woman with a 40 year old man how would you guys see this situation?

    This is a MAJOR sign of a man that does not respect you as his significant other.

    I would dump him.

    He should dump her if he does not admire her as his gf.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lesa View Post
    I wasn't sure what swatting was either lol.

    If this was a 40 year old woman with a 40 year old man how would you guys see this situation?
    I think in this case he was merely trying to jokingly reprimand her for trying to 'endure' a bad situation for his enjoyment. As someone who isn't having fun unless the person with me is, I can understand his irritation.

    I think if you can talk to him about his behavior being inappropriate, then you can probably not count on him repeating it. Something tells me he wasn't thinking when he did it, but he wasn't trying to enforce dominance over her by hitting her.

    If he comes near it again, I'd leave. Run like hell even.
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    I have a feeling this is not a teen or early twenties couple. I don't understand why he feels the need to "punish" her because she is feeling ill.

    My man would gently hold me and walk us back to the vehicle.

    He is definitely not her knight. There must be more to the story.

    EDIT: Oh he does have children. Lol, yeah he thought you were his child for a moment. Not a good sign for MANY reasons. Two of them are that he possibly treat his children like this and he does not respect you are at his "level".
    Last edited by lesa; 30-12-08 at 10:14 AM.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lesa View Post
    I have a feeling this is not a teen or early twenties couple. I don't understand why he feels the need to "punish" her because she is feeling ill.
    I don't think he punished her for feeling ill, I think he punished her for not telling him that she was ill so that they could leave earlier and get her taken care of.
    "Well, then," the Cat went on, "you see a dog growls when it's angry, and wags its tail when it's pleased. Now I growl when I'm pleased, and wag my tail when I'm angry. Therefore I'm mad."

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    I imagine dishing out a spanking to a pouting, sulking girlfriend who's trying to comandeer your attention at a concert might be rather satisfying.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lite View Post
    I don't think he punished her for feeling ill, I think he punished her for not telling him that she was ill so that they could leave earlier and get her taken care of.
    lol okay

    Like I said. It's not a good sign for this relationship.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lite View Post
    I don't think he punished her for feeling ill, I think he punished her for not telling him that she was ill so that they could leave earlier and get her taken care of.
    Wow, that is SO not what I got out of her post.

    Quote Originally Posted by Charliboy
    I imagine dishing out a spanking to a pouting, sulking girlfriend who's trying to comandeer your attention at a concert might be rather satisfying.
    ^^ that was. ^^
    Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?

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    i would take that behavior to mean that there is something wrong with that person. i would imagine that that behavior took a long time to learn or to justify. i would think he was an abused child or something. and definitely a future abuser. whether he was or not, i would not stay around to find out.
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