Will you consider someone who have incurable but treatable std?

[IndiReloaded]

Go *together* and discuss options with a doctor. If one or both of you are uncomfortable with this, you should not be in a relationship.

Looking things up on a reputable site such as medline.org will get you started, as CB suggests. However, NOONE here on an anonymous forum is qualified to give you medical advice. Go talk to a doc & good luck.

[lesa]

So because I know before hand I should willingly have sex with them? Knowing makes it easier for me to decide that I wont do it. I know that to prevent it with someone who doesnt tell me I should require them get tested, but my only thing Im trying to get across in this thread is if I know you got it, Im not doing it.

I understand what you mean. I feel the same way. That kind of information makes you want to run.

I spoke with this guy that said if he had a "secret" he wanted to tell his partner he thinks it's probably wiser to wait until the relationship becomes serious and then tell them.

Just pretend everyone has a sti and behave accordingly.

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

I dont think he was really looking for a medical outlook on the situation, but a outside view on it, like would you ever. But seeing a doctor is a great idea. I personally dont know alot about HSV, but it is a std, which I was taught to be careful of. I know I'm not the most cautious person in the world, but I do care about my body. If I am wrong for not wanting to have sex with someone knowing they had a std, then so be it. The possibility is there for me to have an std right now, and even though I believe I protected myself enough to feel safe, I am not 100% sure. Shit, is anyone 100% sure other than virgins? Are virgins even 100* sure?

These kinda things scare me at times.

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

Just pretend everyone has a sti and behave accordingly.

Ha lol...that sounds like a great idea...I might come on too strong about getting tested and scare em away lol...

[IndiReloaded]

I don't envy you single ppl. If I had to date again, I'm sure I'd go around with a personal STI test kit. Damn.

[lesa]

Unfortunately hpv and hsv are the two easiest sti to get and yes, you can be a virgin and still get these two.

Condoms will not protect much. These are skin-to-skin contact infections.

Science people joke about hpv. They say that if you over the age of 30 and have had sexual relations then there is a very high chance you have it. That's why we don't usually give hpv vaccine to older people. Now, I think they will if you request it.. If you are over 40 and you and your partner were not virgins before meeting then there is an extremely high chance that you have at least one strain of hpv. I can't remember why age and cervical cancer is not a high priority for the much older female.

EDIT: Oh, I remember. I think it's because signs of cervical cell changes are not high if the woman has been with the same partner all those years. It's the new partners and young women (who have new partners/first partners) that have a greater chance of changes to cells of the cervix.

[IndiReloaded]

Science people joke about hpv.

None of the viral researchers I know joke about this.

Anyway, Chap, go see a doc. Or at least post on a forum that has confirmed doctors who will answer your questions. Here is a reputable one that has a lot on your topic.

[url]http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/405731[/url]

[Cain]

Only if it was HPV and it was for a girl that was truly special. HPV, however, is curable and goes away on it's own in time. Your body is able to eventually fight off the infection.

[lesa]

Joke was supposed to be in italics. I didn't mean it the way it appeared. Those statements are actually serious.

[lesa]

Wait a minute! The OP wants medical opinions? I thought the OP was asking the opinion of regular people.

Also looking up information for HPV is great but HSV is what the potential girlfriend has.

EDIT: Wow, That physician from that website really did not give great advice for a medical professional. But nevertheless he basically showed how prevalent hpv is by his response...which was similar to my post 21 that if you had sexual relations you probably already have had it. Not many people test for it unless you count the pap smears or treatment for warts.

[miserablechap]

ya i am not really asking for medical opinions. I am asking for opinions from third party viewpoint.

[1averagejoe]

^^^ well then Nisha if you're that concerned you should regulate your sexual behaviours more. In the US 1 in 4 people has HSV. So there's a very real chance you've ALREADY slept with someone with HSV. Most people who have it don't know it.

Both Kristin and I got blood tests for HSV because of how common it is (it's about 1 in 6 here though, a bit lower than the US). It was highly nerve racking actually, but good news for both of us.

Edit: And I'm talking about HSV2 here, the kind that usually causes genital infection and is the more aggressive.

HSV1 is even more common - about 50% have it. That's the kind that causes cold sores except most people that have the virus don't get sores.

I have HSV1 (coldsores)...they're painful, unsightly and just plain gross. I wouldn't want something like that on my balls.

I respect anyone that will tell someone that they have an STD. That takes a lot of courage. But besides the point, HSV 2 can be transmitted even with a condom. It's highly contagious. All it really takes is vaginal fluid getting down there or your balls touching her vagina and you can get it. Even if there is no sign of a sore the virus can still be transmitted.

Also don't even think about oral. HSV 2 tends to be a bit more aggressive than HSV 1 and the last thing you want is huge sores all around your mouth. Of course it varies from person to person. Some people have HSV 1 and/or 2 and don't have any signs or breakups.

[lesa]

Only if it was HPV and it was for a girl that was truly special. HPV, however, is curable and goes away on it's own in time. Your body is able to eventually fight off the infection.

HPV is not curable. And it doesn't always goes away. That's why women get the cell changes in the cervix that can develop into cancer. I suppose it depends on the immune system of the individual. Some lucky people are able to repress the virus within two years.

[Cain]

HPV is not curable. And it doesn't always goes away. That's why women get the cell changes in the cervix that can develop into cancer. I suppose it depends on the immune system of the individual. Some lucky people are able to repress the virus within two years.

Some lucky people? Most people can build an immunity to HPV. Your body will develop an immunity to that strain of HPV over time (most people), and those antibodies will remain in the body to prevent a recurrence of that strain and prevent the spread. It won't protect you from a different strain, however, and so your body will have to develop an immunity to that as well.

EDIT: But if you have a deficient immune system, then no, you likely won't be able to develop an immunity.

[lesa]

Some lucky people are able to repress the virus within two years.

Unless they are with the same partner they may be spreading it to others...actually there is a very good chance they are spreading it if they have a new partner within I will say 2-3 years.