i can't wait for her reply

[alexandergarr]

My girlfriend and i have had some issues in the passed, leading her to believe that im kinda a protective boyfriend. We've discussed our problems , and i've learned how to cope with some issues that in pass relationships i wouldn't have been able to deal with. By the way im 16 years of age so don't expect me to be an expert in this area. She went for vacation, and shes coming back shortly , and i tried talking to her over the internet, and i could tell that our relationship isn't at it's peek lately. So she decides to tell me that we have to have a talk when she gets back. Of course being me i questioned her if this was a good or bad talk. But she responded with an honest '' I'm not sure'' so that got my boat shaking a bit... I'm asking this forum , what do i do with this situation. I'm in tears cause i love her so much. but i haven't told her that yet. Should i let her know in person as soon as she returns?

[IndiReloaded]

Don't worry about something you can't do anything about. Find out what she wants. If you need to, post here for advice afterward.

[carl1222]

Indi is right ... it wouldn't be the first time that someone got upset over nothing based on limited information.

But Indi is also right (by implication) that it doesn't look good.

Is she vacationing very far from home? This is an important question.

Carl.

[alexandergarr]

just talked to her , i asked her if she missed me. she said ''what?, can we please talk about this when i get home'' i didnt answer back. she's about 3000 miles away, she went on a cruise.

[Aeradalia]

just talked to her , i asked her if she missed me. she said ''what?, can we please talk about this when i get home'' i didnt answer back. she's about 3000 miles away, she went on a cruise.

That's an odd response...

Makes me wonder if she's considering breaking up. There didn't seem to be any care at all in her response. At the very least, she doesn't respect you.

[carl1222]

just talked to her , i asked her if she missed me. she said ''what?, can we please talk about this when i get home'' i didnt answer back. she's about 3000 miles away, she went on a cruise.

What? She's 3,000 miles away on a cruise, and she's giving you shit?

It's time for you to seriously shift gears, Alexander.

The question is no longer whether she wants to be with you, it should be now whether you want to be with her .. rationally ... no infatuation bulls**t like "but I love her" sh*t. The gloves are off.

Here's your empowerment ... what you should know but she doesn't know you know ... she f**ked him!!!

First, the bad stuff ...

She met a guy on the cruise and she f**ked him. that's what she wants to "talk about" although she will say something about "evaluating your relationship" or "trying to clear her feelings for you." Remember, that is total bulls**t!

He almost surely lives far enough from her that he doesn't have to worry that her waxing his d**k with her is a problem for him ... she has been played on a cruise by a non-local guy ... yawn.

My suggestion? No matter what she says (other than "I love you and I missed you sooo much), I would kick her to the curb instantly the first word out of her mouth!

Too harsh, Aeradalia? hehehe

Carl.

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

Although it is an assumption, I do believe another guy has something to do with this. She was a total bitch with her response to your question. He was probably right next to her when you asked her that question.

What is there to talk about? She sounds like she is up to no good and you are putting up with it. I say forget about this chick, like seriously.

[Aeradalia]

I'm afraid I'll have to agree with Car and LadieNisha... she's hiding something and you calling seemed to agitate her (interfering with her good time perhaps?).

In either case, she doesn't respect you, is wanting to have fun while she's away, and will probably drop an emotional bomb on you when she gets back.

Do yourself a favor... leave now. She doesn't want you and you don't need the drama she's fixing to drop on you.

It's already over...

[alexandergarr]

shes coming back in 3 days, ive arranged for us to meet somewhere, i take into account the advice you all have given me, but i'm not the kind of guy that doesn't give the right for a chance to talk. i'll see what happens, i've been led to believe that i should dump her, but i she's special to me (im probably not special to her) but on the other hand, she could be really nervous because she wants to tell me that she loves me. Because she's had a rough ex-relationship with this fag. and he really broke her heart. (and this relationship has only been going on for 2 months) i know it's a short relationship to begin with, but it's one of those [bond really quickly/learn everything there is to know about her]...

[alexandergarr]

to add, the whole holiday break, she was acting fine, but after her new years party ( i dont know where it was, it was somewhere that she was vacationing) she acted strangely, and that night she told me ''can we talk about this, when i get home'' so i think she cheated on me, i don't know.. i think it was something that she regretted doing, maybe alcohol clouded her judgment. Still i really dont want to break up with her, <-- it'll be the last resort.. and i'm not an emotional after-break-up person. i figure out ways to deal with it on my own. --- also adding to the cheating factor, she hasn't had sex, so it couldn't have been that bad

[alexandergarr]

any other advice?

[Cain]

any other advice?

Yeah, I have some.

Never, ever accept alcohol as a viable reason for cheating. And just because she told you she's never had sex doesn't mean that she hasn't.

Her response to your question was shit. If that was the response that I'd gotten, I'd make sure that we had a talk in person on my time, on my terms. If I didn't like how it was going, I'd end things before she got the chance to.

[alexandergarr]

thanks for the advice

[doppelgaenger]

Break up with her. She's not girlfriend material.

[jenbenn]

Ya when most people are drinking they just use it as an excuse to do things they don't have the balls to do when they are sober. I think she is going to tell you something bad so brace yourself for it right now.

It is odd that she would say that she didn't know if it would be good or bad news when you guys talked. I have had tons of girlfriends say that to guys when they were pregnant because they didn't know how they would react. So maybe that give you something to think about if it is plausible.