how to get to the dating stage?

[savoysuit]

well I hope I have good instincts. I think I'm good at reading people... I just wish I could do more sometimes. :/

and yeah, I'll keep this updated. I appreciate any comments people have, and so it's only fair to them to let them know how things go.

[savoysuit]

what an odd coincidence. She came over to me (she saw me) at a metro stop that we just happened to be at at the same time. She greeted me with kisses (cheek kisses... but we had never greeted this way before). It was a very brief meeting (just about 5 min) as I got off at the next stop. I donèt know if this is good or not (especially the cheek kisses)....

Yeah, I know I said I would not post without a question, but what the hell.

[TheGreek]

what an odd coincidence. She came over to me (she saw me) at a metro stop that we just happened to be at at the same time. She greeted me with kisses (cheek kisses... but we had never greeted this way before). It was a very brief meeting (just about 5 min) as I got off at the next stop. I donèt know if this is good or not (especially the cheek kisses)....

Yeah, I know I said I would not post without a question, but what the hell.

It sounds like she was excited to see you. Are you worried that the cheek kisses might mean friend zone? 'Cause I don't think so.

[savoysuit]

I was concerned because she hasn't been as prompt with her replies to my msg'es (I haven't sent very many). She used to reply within a day... now much much longer. She said she's been really busy and stressed for time (I explained all that earlier). Responding to a msg doesn't take long.

anyway, I'm going to msg her tomorrow and see if she's free later in the week... her response (assuming there is one lol) should be my indicator

[IndiReloaded]

anyway, I'm going to msg her tomorrow and see if she's free later in the week... her response (assuming there is one lol) should be my indicator

Yes. Especially since you now know she's been around but hasn't contacted you. Good luck, hope this works out.

[savoysuit]

I'll let you know how it goes

[TheGreek]

Best of luck to you man.

[savoysuit]

well see I already made some moves on the previous "date". I don't want to backtrack... and I don't want her to friendzone me. Anyway, when I'm actually on a date, I find I relax pretty easily actually.

[savoysuit]

so I msg'ed her Monday... got a response yesterday. I'm probably getting together with her today. Probably... as long as our schedules click.

[TheGreek]

sounds promising.

[savoysuit]

so I went out with her from 5 to 12:30.... she seemed to want to keep it going, which is good to me.

We went out to eat, then were going to go to a Burlesque show... would have been fun. Sadly, near the end of our meal I started to feel a bit queezy. I don't know what the hell was wrong with me. Anyway, I hope she understood (she said she did)... so we just went to a local pub for drinks (well, I just had water... considering how I was feeling). Thankfully I started feeling better, but it was too late to go to the show... so we just talked. Hell, we spent the whole time talking, which to me is good. It didn't feel quite so forced this time... tried to get her to open up more. Brought her back to show her my work in my studio... after that it was late, and she needed to be getting back (she lives far enough away). Just brief cheek kisses at the end, which is fine by me, since we were standing in -30 Celsius weather and she was all bundled up so that I could barely see her lol. Sent her a brief humorous text msg when I got home that she'd see while riding back... got a quick response.

so it went well, considering it could have been a near disaster with me not feeling well in the middle. It's a shame we didn't get to the show. She was looking forward to it... it would have been fun.

[swargolet]

I'm happy to hear things are going well for you. She is obvoiusly interested in you and I think you should try and bring it up to the next level.
Also dont over analyze things such as a late response there are many reasons you may not receive a response right away.

Also you keep looking at if she is still in the friend-zone. Have you ever see her with other guy friends? Does she act the same around them as she does you? Does she go out with them as much or give them cheek-kisses? Probably not so I think it is safe to assume that she thinks of you more than a friend.

[savoysuit]

yeah well I have no idea what she has in terms of guy friends, or how she treats them. I had an opportunity tonight to possibly see it firsthand but nicely managed to divert the subject (I just didn't want the distraction).

So by next level you mean...? I don't want to rush things with her, as she doesn't seem to be the type.

[TheGreek]

I think by the next, we're talking about stepping up the physical level. Make your intentions clear. At the end of the next date, kiss her.

[savoysuit]

well I'd like to. I guess it depends on the setting at the end of the next date. If we're standing freezing to death again... maybe that's not the best time/place.