I am trying to get her back!

[lesa]

when you have a child it's not called looking for a sugar daddy anymore. it's looking for a father and a husband who can provide for a family.

Oh, I'll make note of that . Whatever happened to love? Shouldn't the biological father provide for the child at least until she is married? Maybe something happened to the biological father.

There's more to this story. I don't understand why she would leave him and break up "the family" for another man so easily.


Question (not about the OP): Is it cheating if she does these things after a breakup? Or is it because they were engaged that makes it cheating after breakup? I'm just curious.

[flyinbrian]

Her daughters dad is a piece of crap. in jail all the time. she doesnt even let him see her. She let me take her daughter ice skating today and i watched her while mom went to look at a apartment. she is living with this guy in a ****ing trailer park! so when it comes time to leave her daughter gives her a real hard time because she doesnt want to go. My ex then gets mad at me saying that i am messing with her 7 and a half year olds head? wtf? i told her her daughter was part of my life for almost 4 years. im the only one as close to a dad she has ever had. and this is my fault how?

[TipsGoda]

dude,i think you did the right thing.And she should be thankful for that,not dump you.I wish you the best dude.

[jeffyrud]

i was in a similar situation few years back and the worst thing that you can possibly do in this situation is try to win her back and thats what i did. So dont make the same mistake i did. First off, her behavior caused you a lot of emotional headache and unrest, and she will continue to do so as long as you keep trying to get her back. My best advice would be MOVE ON!!! THis will save you a lot energy and emotional well being. Go out and meet new women if you have trouble forgeting about her.

[chipmunkz]

good luck bro

[flyinbrian]

I have been in no contact for 5 days now and she had texted my buddy trying to get info on me. this is all after she got pissed at me for talking to one of her friends. wtf? This all comes after the incident with her daughter. she never misses work for anything. she had to miss two days the week before because school was closed as was daycare. she got her ass chewed out a little at work for this. and then the very next week she misses work the day after her daughter didnt want to leave my place. something must be really going on in her head. im worried for her.

[flyinbrian]

bump bump bump

[Indignant]

ewww how rude..........

[flyinbrian]

ewww how rude..........

why is that rude? just looking for some help!!!!!!!!!

[Indignant]

why is that rude

bumping your own threads? have you not gotten an answer to your question yet?

[flyinbrian]

bumping your own threads? have you not gotten an answer to your question yet?

No i havent really gotten answer. just wondering what other people may think is going on with her texting my buddy?

[Lite]

No i havent really gotten answer. just wondering what other people may think is going on with her texting my buddy?

Desperation for attention. Perhaps she's worried/hoping that you've hurt yourself over her? Or, maybe she feels she needs something from you.

Don't feel bad about taking another few weeks to yourself before responding. You're not beholden to her, and you're working on yourself right now.

[flyinbrian]

Yes i sure have. been feeling way better about myself. just been worried for her and her daughter. She never misses work and they day after we last saw each other she didnt show. been very strong it not contacting her. kind of like a game now marking days on the calendar.

[flyinbrian]

She has been gone for over a month. why does she still have her mail sent here?

[IndiReloaded]

Brian, you need to get her out of your life. You are paying rent alone on your place, right?

So, unless you want to start charging her for storage, time to get her stuff OUT.

Just give her a date she needs to have her things gone by. Keep things very impersonal. As for her mail, just simply write on the envelope 'occupant moved' and leave it in the mailbox for the postman to take back.

I know it sucks about her kid, but since you aren't the father there isn't much you can do. Feel sorry for the child, that's about it. And try to find a nice lady you can raise your own reasonable family with. Its always trouble when a guy hooks up with a woman who has kids from a previous relationship. Not impossible, but difficult especially when the woman involved doesn't seem all that reasonable.

Sorry fella. Harden your heart and move on. Let people lay in the beds they make for themselves.