I am trying to get her back!

[flyinbrian]

My fiancee broke up with me the day before christmas. I was in total shock and still am. I did everything wrong the last couple of weeks. I finally told her i was sorry our lives together ended like this. All i ever wanted was for to be happy. and if this is what it takes to make her happy, then i have to accept that. i hope the best for her. goodbye Alicia she had just wanted to be left alone and now i was giving her this. but she still continues to text me? how to I handle this. I refuse to contact her at this point. but feel i still have to reply to hers?:

[carl1222]

Why did she dump you?

[flyinbrian]

said she had to prove she could make it on her own. pretty sure she is banging another dude already!

[carl1222]

OK, I'll take your gut feeling at face value.
If she has been cheating on you, or quickly got a new boyfriend, I wonder ... why is she texting you and what is the nature of her texts?

You will get much better advice if you tell a more complete story of what is going on. We are here to help.

Carl.

[Lite]

Yeah, so even if she IS banging another guy she's trying to drag you on behind her as a backup. It's called sending her a response that simple reads. "Stop contacting me."

And be done with it. You deserve better treatment than that, even if you love her. Stand up for yourself and respect yourself. Then maybe she will respect you as well.

[flyinbrian]

She text me to watch for her on tv because she was going to the wild hockey game? it was our big thing to spend time watching the games. we would never miss one.

[carl1222]

Yeah, so even if she IS banging another guy she's trying to drag you on behind her as a backup. It's called sending her a response that simple reads. "Stop contacting me."

And be done with it. You deserve better treatment than that, even if you love her. Stand up for yourself and respect yourself. Then maybe she will respect you as well.

I agree with Lite except the last part. It doesn't matter at this point whether she finds new respect for you ... her chance to be with you is over no matter what you may feel. Don't even give her the satisfaction of a response ... she should be dead to you!

Carl.

[flyinbrian]

The shitty part is i miss her 7yr old daughter. i was the closest thing she has ever known to a dad. i know in my gut that she will be back. just might take sometime. i think if i reply i will just wait awhile so im not being there for every beckon call.

[carl1222]

Your bond with her daughter does change things. She needs to explain to you (and herself) why she betrayed both you and her daughter for a groin tickle.

Make it VERY hard for her to repair ... hard enough for her to keep her pants on in the future.

Carl.

[flyinbrian]

i will try to make it hard. but i miss her so much. i know i need to be strong. maybe if she does get mad at no response she will fell she is losing me and change her mind. i think she is just confused and doesnt really know what she wants even when she tells me we are over but continues to contact me!

[carl1222]

Brian, I hate to be so blunt. But if your intuition is spot on, there are a few things to consider.

1) She brought you into her daughter's life;
2) Despite that, she thought it was more important to enjoy the excitement of having another man inside her.

That needs to be resolved why before you can go on!

Carl.

[flyinbrian]

Like your ever gonna get a straight answer from a woman during a breakup. our sex life was great. unbelievable actually. i cant see her leaving for sex?

[carl1222]

Like your ever gonna get a straight answer from a woman during a breakup. our sex life was great. unbelievable actually. i cant see her leaving for sex?

Why do you see her leaving you then? I think you don't want to face the truth. But it's the only thing that makes sense.

Carl.

[IndiReloaded]

Come on Brian. Nothing happens in a vacuum. Your fiancee suddenly dumping you? Like Carl, I'm having a hard time believing that.

Either you are missing something or hiding something. Either one would be a good reason for you & your gal to have issues.

[flyinbrian]

thats the reason she gives me. i have supported her and her daughter for 3 and a half years now. and now when i need financial help she snapped because i threw it in her face that she hasnt paid a dime for rent in 2 and a half years. all she paid was electric and cable bill sometimes!