Girlfriend not ready to have sex and now I know why....what to do?

[il.mafiozzzo]

This is a tough call but you see she has a really good personality, calls me all the time to see just how I'm doing, tells me how nice I'm, sometimes even says she loves me. I know it does kinda piss me off that she just banged some random guys and I'm her boyfriend and she won't do me. But then again it's her choice and just because I'm her B/F it doesn't mean she gotta open her legs I guess she still needs time. The other thing is ever since she came to the US she was running into really horrible people and had really bad experiences and I'm the only one she trusts now and I would feel really bad just to leave her and she will be on her own.

[Mish]

Hmmm

Can't say that I ran into this problem before. Usually legs open automatically for me. In the worst case scenario I need to implement the Mish-back-rub, but that always does the trick.


Maybe it's more about pressing the right buttons? You know women and their emotional states, if you do things right all logic disappears

[xAmeliaLouisex]

Whilst I totally agree that she shouldn't have sex with you until she's good and ready (especially if she's still hung up about what she did before) it is completely not in line for her to be doing other stuff to get you horny and THEN stopping. Tell her that you're just not comfortable with it, and how horny, frustrated and irritated it makes you feel. Make it clear that you love her and are NOT pushing for sex, but you do feel uncomfortable with her saying she wants to fxck you etc and then not doing anything. I think again communication is the main point here. Talk to her.