Was Found in an Apartment

[Aeradalia]

Well, some kids will be resentful of pretty much anything.

I wasn't talking about 'kids'... I was talking about when they become adults..

Also, the resentment can go both ways. In my house, it was my son who didn't want a pet, and every time the dog does something annoying, you can bet my son is resentful.

If your son didn't want a pet... then why have one? If he didn't want it.. then it's safe to say that he didn't pick it out either. If another child wanted the pet, then why should he have to care for it?

The good news is that someday you will be able to put all your theories into practice.

I don't have to put into practice the theory that any child can learn responsibility... I see it every day via other parents, close family members, friends... complete strangers.. and every adult I've met has some understanding of responsibility. Our entire society is built on having an understanding of responsibility (you have to go to work.. to pay for the things you want and need... to help your family.. etc).

Let's not make this a matter of requiring experience with something that can just as easily be observed. Adults understand responsibility... so at some point between childhood and adulthood.. they had to learn it. I don't need to 'experience' the process to understand that point A leads to point B.

[misombra]

Used to breed fish to feed to an Oscar and a Ribbonsnake I had.... then I had a goliath waterbug that would eat the fish that died in the breeding tank... that was quite the 'ecosystem.'

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that was funny.

[vashti]

I wasn't talking about 'kids'... I was talking about when they become adults..

Some adults are resentful about a lot of stuff, too.

If your son didn't want a pet... then why have one? If he didn't want it.. then it's safe to say that he didn't pick it out either. If another child wanted the pet, then why should he have to care for it?

It's my daughter's dog, and my son is not expected to care for it, but he still has to live with it, and if you don't especially like dogs, you might be resentful when they misbehave. Fortunately, my boy isn't the type who carries petty grievances around. He loves his sister, and consented to the dog to make her happy, but he is totally hands-off.

I don't have to put into practice the theory that any child can learn responsibility....

OK... you are entitled to your opinions, just as I am entitled to think that personality has a great deal to do with how responsible a person will be as an adult. My observations are based on actually raising kids, but you may have different experiences. I don't have a vested interest in you agreeing with me. :shrug:

[Aeradalia]

And some of those resentful adults.. may be resentful about their parents denying them pets. Saying a lot of adults are resentful does not exclude the possibility they are resentful for a very specific reason.

Your son had the opportunity to agree to having a dog in the house... so it's not same as being resentful because the responsibilities of a pet was forced upon him... so really doesn't apply here.

Regardless of personality, anyone can learn responsibility, or else the military's method wouldn't work. Being a parent is no guarantee of having a good understanding of how a child thinks or even on how to properly raise one. See plenty of spoiled brats and physically violent children that support this. Sadly, no parent can ever be sure if they were a 'good' parent until their children are full grown or nearly so.

[vashti]

And some of those resentful adults.. may be resentful about their parents denying them pets. Saying a lot of adults are resentful does not exclude the possibility they are resentful for a very specific reason.

Don't you find it kind of pathetic to be carrying resentment into adulthood over the lack of a pet? I mean, as an adult, you can get whatever you want. Too many kids and young adults these days think just because they wanted something when they were growing up, they should have gotten it. Such a sense of entitlement!

Sadly, no parent can ever be sure if they were a 'good' parent until their children are full grown or nearly so.

You mean like mine? (Yeah, they are good, too. REALLY good.)

[Lipp]

Alright, this can be developed!

Breed insects in some tucked-away cupboard (used to catch wild mosquito larvae myself, doubt you can breed them but there oughta be others).

Feed that to the fish (supplement with regular fish flakes, allows for keeping something more than just the basic everyday fishies, and keep some simply to breed).

Feed the excess breeds to a snake.

Use the fish tank water for plants.

Can potentially breed fish to feed to carnivorous fishes, though that requires at least two tanks.