I feel blue

[ecojeanne]

Well as expected I am bored from the relationship with pharma guy coz we are completely incompatible, it was great to have sex again after a very long dry spell but now he’s just not doin it for me. I can’t get turned on by him anymore. I realise now that I do actually want to be with someone (I wasn’t sure if I actually did coz I feel I’m too selfish). I want to be pursued and get excited like I did with my ex. It’s my fault coz I let my hormones take over my sense. Mish you were right, it wasn’t a good move to get involved with him. He is a very negative person generally and we don’t really have much in common to talk about and whenever we do talk I completely ignore him (by accident) and then I end up asking him the same questions again. He’s not very deep honestly. Where as me I could talk just about anything no matter how ridiculous, the more ridiculous the more fun for me. He just wants to talk about tax and the state of this country. Sometimes it’s funny coz he gets so mad but mostly now it’s just boring. All we had was the sexual chemistry, but it’s not good enough for me now. I don’t really feel like he is all that into me either. I want a decent boyfriend who is mad about me and who talks about various things. So I now feel blue. I miss my colleagues from my old job, I’m working on my own and hardly get to see anyone my own age who isn’t a client. Just sharin’

[RSK]

i'm sorry you are feeling so blue, here is a song for you

well, let me just say that i think everybody deserves to feel 'wanted'. and as soon as you lose that feeling, you shouldn't lose hope.

just go on knowing, that someone somewhere is out there, wondering and looking for the same thing as you. he's out there

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KVlxEeO8BHw"]YouTube - Broadcast Yourself.[/ame]

[misombra]

awww that sucks! well, off to newer and better things.

[Aeradalia]

Just pausing to tank up on the way to someone you will get along with.

Hang in there... for all you know, he could be one relationship away....

[Mish]

Back into the sea you go...

Personally I found it's not a good idea to end a 'dry spell' just for the sake of ending it. For the quick fix you pay a heavy price, because after fuking with your body people usually start fuking with your mind. Your emotions, your nerves, making you second guess yourself. I found that it's just not worth it. I decided that next time I enter someone it'd better be someone really special. It will probably be a long wait, but it will be worth it in the end.

[vashti]

RSK - that song just feeds the blues! What eco needs is THIS video:

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=27IYSk3Ix3Q"]YouTube - Broadcast Yourself.[/ame]

Chin up, eco! At least you got laid.

[misombra]

lol i came in here to put up a video and everybody's already got videos up in here!

here's mine anyways.

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5eOTq3U1C_k"]YouTube - Broadcast Yourself.[/ame]

[ecojeanne]

thanks everyone, you're right of course. i'm more optimistic about life now than i was before i met him, so out to sea i will go again

[starbuck]

Nothing wrong with trying someone out for a while, you know? But you're a vibrant, passionate woman and he sounds like a wet noodle. I'd feel blue about this, too. But better to come to this conclusion now before wasting more time with him.

The bright side is, that the sooner you get back out there, the sooner you'll find a guy that better matches you intellectually and physically.

[DoesntMatter]

he sounds like a wet noodle.

I agree with starbuck. He sounds like a wet noodle

BTW Eco, when you feel down you need to listen to ONLY good music. This is the kind of music that combats the blues

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WcivcSXcFRY"]YouTube - Broadcast Yourself.[/ame]

[Mish]

The bright side is, that the sooner you get back out there, the sooner you'll find a guy that better matches you intellectually and physically.

I used to think this way too, but now I disagree. I find that not going out there and just being yourself and enjoying the things you like doing is a much better alternative. Allow yourself be part of many social experiences with lots of different people (nothing romantically related) and do not search consciously. Allow any compatibility to happen on it's own. That's my new way of looking at this.

[1averagejoe]

Weird...I kind of felt the same way with my ex. Except without the sex.

Sorry to hear about that though. Hope you feel better eco!

[Rollerderby]

Back into the sea you go...

Personally I found it's not a good idea to end a 'dry spell' just for the sake of ending it. For the quick fix you pay a heavy price, because after fuking with your body people usually start fuking with your mind. Your emotions, your nerves, making you second guess yourself. I found that it's just not worth it. I decided that next time I enter someone it'd better be someone really special. It will probably be a long wait, but it will be worth it in the end.

Agreed. If you are horn-dogin it, go get yourself a vibrator. Safer too.

[starbuck]

I used to think this way too, but now I disagree. I find that not going out there and just being yourself and enjoying the things you like doing is a much better alternative. Allow yourself be part of many social experiences with lots of different people (nothing romantically related) and do not search consciously. Allow any compatibility to happen on it's own. That's my new way of looking at this.

I agree with that too, Mish. I don't think she needs to go on a manhunt per se, but being with a guy she's just 'meh' about will totally close her off to other opportunities to meet a guy she's wild about.

She needs to be freeeeee!

[Mish]

I agree with that too, Mish. I don't think she needs to go on a manhunt per se, but being with a guy she's just 'meh' about will totally close her off to other opportunities to meet a guy she's wild about.

She needs to be freeeeee!

Yeh, that's what I meant as well. We shouldn't waste time with 'bleh', only be with someone when there is a real compatibility.

My radical shift from women/manhunts comes from my newly discovered views on people. I find myself seeing people more as a bouquet of flaws and talents, friends that you can talk to openly about things which are important. It's good to have attraction to begin with, but I also found that attraction develops from compatibility and familiarity. I think that best partners come from this pool.